March 9, 2026

S4 E2: Winning at Life… Sort Of

S4 E2: Winning at Life… Sort Of
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Season 1

The mic’s back after a chaotic month, and we’re diving straight into cringe, marriage negotiations, and a Nationals weekend that went from “oh no” to first place. Along the way, we laugh, stress, and flex that resilience muscle hard.

We cover tiny moments with big lessons: cigars in front of kids, secret adult choices that look shady, and our “Zooies” bit that’s really about consent, timing, and asking for what you need without shame. Toss in Kyle Richards, Paige DeSorbo, and strangers judging your life online, and it’s a hot mess but hilarious.

We also get real about fertility, hope, and setbacks that are more training than verdicts. 

If you want laughs, messy honesty, and a little inspiration, hit play, share with a friend, and leave a review.

00:00 - Reboot And Real Talk Vibe

01:05 - Are We Into Women Or Just Joking

03:10 - Pop Culture Takes: Kyle And Paige

08:15 - Compliments, Confidence, And Cringe Moments

12:20 - Cigars, Solo Habits, And Parenting Lines

18:00 - Feeling Alone While Juggling Family Care

22:40 - Why We Keep Podcasting: Being Real Helps

27:50 - Fighting, Making Up, And Modeling Conflict

33:10 - The Zooies Deal: Negotiation Comedy

41:30 - Coaching Stress And Nationals Build Up

46:45 - Pit To Palace: Faith, Pressure, And Winning

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Welcome to Jerkin Around, a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself because we're messed, just like you.

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And Crystal makes fun of people.

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And it's great and it's real.

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Welcome.

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Welcome back to Jerkin'Around, guys.

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It was over a month because we've had some problems.

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Yeah.

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We recorded last week.

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It was boring and it was drama-filled with stupid things we shouldn't talk about.

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So here we are.

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Yeah.

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We had a re-record.

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It was boring though.

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It was boring.

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We I just gotten back from Nationals.

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Yeah.

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Um, with the cheer team, and they won.

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That was exciting.

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That was exciting.

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But then we went on dumb tangents after that.

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Because you know when you travel and then my house was a mess.

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Yeah.

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Did I travel before that too?

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No, I did the second travel.

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After.

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After.

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No, but we just didn't have anything to talk about because we're talking about it.

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Because we hadn't talked yet.

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Yeah.

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When we work in the car, we don't talk about real life yet.

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It's just weird.

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We were talking about like it would be almost easy if we were lesbians, but I'm just not into it.

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No.

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And I know you keep trying.

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No, you keep trying.

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But there is things-you always throw things out there like that.

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Like it would be easy.

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No, I talked to someone about it this weekend when you weren't there.

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I know.

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That's yeah, and I was like, well, that one thing happened, you know, and I didn't like it.

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And then that was it for me.

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No.

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I just couldn't do it.

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It's just not for me.

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Yeah.

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Like, I don't know if people know that they would like that body part.

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Because I I couldn't imagine.

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Yeah, I don't want to touch someone else's vagina.

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Me too?

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No.

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Is that how you know then that you're not?

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I think that is how you know.

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Because I don't think you're into a vagina.

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You're like, well, I could.

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I'm like Yeah, I know.

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I could not.

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You need to ask someone, is that what happened?

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You thought, I'm into that.

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Yeah, or like it's not bad.

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And then, well, lo and behold, you know?

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Speaking of.

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Kyle Richards, it's like so dumb.

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Yeah.

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You were a lesbian the whole time.

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What's the big deal?

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So does she want him back now?

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No, not in this season.

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Because they broke up, her and the girl.

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The girl.

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Because the girl didn't want to be in the public eye.

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They always asked, like, you knew she was in the public eye.

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I know.

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I can't.

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That's such an excuse.

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It is an excuse.

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But did Kyle always know she wanted vaginas?

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No.

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Or it was just that that girl had the best one?

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I think no.

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I think it's like you form an emotional connection.

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Yeah.

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But like I have an emotional connection with you.

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I know.

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I know.

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I don't want that.

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I feel like you might, though.

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I really don't.

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It's okay.

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You know?

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I think you want movies.

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I know that you want movies with this.

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It's so weird.

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I know.

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We have a group of friends where we talk about who they'd hook up with if it was, and they say t-shirt.

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I do feel like I'm picked up.

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I know.

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And she gets all excited.

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I'm not mad about it, you know?

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No, but I don't want that.

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Yeah.

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I mean, it's a compliment.

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I'm like, oh, I'm flattered.

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I'm not talking about that anymore.

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We're talking about the channel.

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I know.

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I love a good flattering moment.

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I love it.

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Oh, wait.

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Oh no.

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I have to tell you.

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Oh my God.

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I have to tell you.

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I'm just blushing for you.

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Embarrassing story.

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And I have not told you this story yet.

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So it's worse than this.

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No, but it's really funny because I haven't told you this story.

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So this is gonna be the first time you hear it.

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Oh, great.

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Okay, most stories I already know.

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So last Friday, we I went to a closing for a client who is Crystal's client, too.

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It was your client I was helping.

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It's your family.

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So, but you were out of town, so I went to the walkthrough.

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And um, so the guy that was the super, he was um, we were walking out, and then I was like, Oh, Haley, we gotta get a picture of you.

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She's drop dead gorgeous.

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And I'm like, you know, when you look like that, we gotta get the picture.

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And so she brought her- The picture's so cute.

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She brought her camera, it was a whole thing.

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Oh, is that why the picture's so cute?

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Yeah, and so then the the guy goes, it's so embarrassing.

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He goes, so what are you?

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I go, well, first I go, and she's adorable, so I we gotta get a picture of her.

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I say that.

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And he goes, To Haley, so what are you, 24, 25?

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And I go, I already know.

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I know.

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It was like so embarrassing.

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And I go, me?

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And he told him, Thank you so much.

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Yeah, well, no, I didn't get that far.

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And I go, me?

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And then I quickly realized he was not talking about me because he looked startled.

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And and Haley and her cute friend were there too.

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Oh god.

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And the cute friend and Haley both look at me like, no, everyone knew we weren't talking about you, but you.

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And then I go, oh yeah, no, you're talking about her, you know.

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Um It wasn't that bad though, if you didn't say thank you.

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Well, I was like, Me?

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Like all excited, like so embarrassing.

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Remember when?

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But like, why would I think someone would think I'm 20 minutes?

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You thought it was yours, and you're like, you like it.

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Yeah.

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And I was like, no, they were.

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No, you were talking about Ms.

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the teacher's hair.

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And I go, I know it looks so good.

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And then you're like, no, I'm talking about her.

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It's so embarrassing.

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I always think I tell her, let other people compliment you.

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No, don't compliment yourself.

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I know.

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Why do you think you're like that?

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I don't know.

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Huh.

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And it's not like I don't have insecurities because I totally do.

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I think I don't know.

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Yeah, I do.

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You know I do.

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Yeah, I know you do.

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And so I don't know why though, but I I just when I do feel good about something in the moment, I'm able to say that.

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And it's not the best, maybe.

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Well, maybe your parents didn't tell you, like, Kyle, we always tell the kids, like, no, you don't compliment yourself.

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You don't tell them.

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Yeah, no one was ever telling me that.

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So you thought, I doesn't my hair look so good today?

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It looks amazing, doesn't it?

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Yeah.

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And I'm just like taught, like, oh, I'm But it's just the truth.

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It's not like I'm, no, but then I'll also be like, oh, my hair looks horrible.

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So it's not like I'm only saying good things.

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Like, I'll say good things and I'll say bad things about uh everyone, myself included.

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Yeah, back to Kyle Richards though.

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Why lie?

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I don't get it.

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We'll take a look at it.

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Speaking of lying, yes, speaking of lying, Paige DeSorbo, you guys know we talked about her a lot last season.

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I'm obsessed with her.

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So obsessed with her though.

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Um she's yeah.

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Yeah, I just can't get enough of her.

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I'm so curious about her all the time.

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I'm not a lesbian, I'm not into that with her.

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Yeah, I just like her vibe.

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It's very like confident.

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Yeah and like she doesn't mold to what people want her to do, but she's gotten there without doing that.

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I love all that.

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But last year, when they broke up, it was like she was seen with Joe D'Emelio, which I love his name and I love the Italian.

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I love all of it.

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And I don't think I said before her and Craig broke up that it's weird she didn't want to marry him.

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I called this for the whole time.

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Yeah.

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They were gonna break up, and then she was spotted with him right away.

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And then we talked about how the ex-fiance was mad at Paige and wrote that whole thing.

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Yeah, and it was like Paige would never do that, blah, blah.

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Like now, they've been together almost a year and a half.

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Yeah.

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It's like, why not just come out with it?

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I honestly love Paige, but I think she waited a year so it didn't look as bad.

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Right, but it's no one's- But like she has the vibe of I'm I don't care what people think, but you do.

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Yeah, yeah, that bugs me.

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Well, and I now that I've been on the receiving end of like, you know, strangers criticizing you, I do think it's just a lot when people are like and she was going through a breakup.

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Yeah.

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You're right.

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It's a lot when people are calling at you, calling you home wrecker, calling you this.

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It's like, even the strongest person that doesn't feel good.

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You're so right, because they were talking about an article about because she's careful about the things she says because she doesn't want it as a headline.

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That's how I am now.

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I know.

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I act like that.

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No one's even listening, but I act like I'm you know, I know.

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And I thought about you.

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I was like, oh, Tisha worries about that a lot.

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Yeah.

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So so does Paige.

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It's so strong.

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She doesn't want the headline.

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Well, they did a headline about her having a UTI, debilitating UTIs, and it was funny hearing her talk about it on the podcast.

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She's like, oh my gosh, like I want that to be a headline.

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Yeah.

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Like that is annoying.

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It is.

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You can't say that.

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And then the comments were horrible.

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Well, and it's all taken out of context because you can cut and edit anything now.

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So it's like stressful.

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Because every time you're about to say something, I'm like, can this be spun in a bad way?

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You know?

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I totally think they're getting married.

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Her and Joe.

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I always saw her with an Italian.

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Yeah, but again, it's weird they're still not.

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Well, supposedly they're living together, which would be mind-blowing.

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Because she never did that with Craig.

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No, never with anyone.

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Yeah.

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So I just feel like the Italian in him, he's very manly.

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He smokes cigars.

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Yeah.

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Is are you saying that because Kyle smokes?

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Yeah.

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Kyle told me he got yelled at last night for so much.

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He got yelled at cigars so bad.

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He told Ben and I all about it.

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When?

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Today, when we were having our call about the shrubs.

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Oh my God.

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I know.

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He's like, yeah, I got got a major ass ripping last night.

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Yeah.

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Well, it was just like, Broxton, he I got home and I was tired.

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And it was like a long day with my mom.

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You know, we had to go do the eye, then I had to drive her to camera because she's blind in one eye.

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A lot going on with my mom lately.

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A lot.

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Yeah.

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And so I was just, it was then I had the banquet, then we went to dinner, then I got home, and I was just really tired.

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Yeah.

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And I'm like you lately.

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I say it a lot.

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Yeah.

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I'm emotionally tired.

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That's what it is.

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It is what I wonder if that's what was happening to me, I think.

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Like my emotions.

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Like I'm not tired.

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Because I'm not saying I'm his tired.

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No.

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I'm emotionally tired.

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Yeah.

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So I just want a nine-year.

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So he walked in and he's like, Broxton's been sick from school.

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Like, so sick.

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Right.

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Fever in bed.

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He went to basketball tryouts yesterday.

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Then he made the team sick, very proud.

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So Kyle said we celebrated by having a cigar.

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Like, that's really what Broxton wanted to help Broxton wanted to celebrate.

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Yeah, and like that's not what I want to teach them.

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We don't celebrate with going to things.

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Like, yeah.

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You know, but like we do that.

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Like, I would have a celebratory drink though.

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Not with your kids though.

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No.

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You wouldn't be like, kids, let's go to dinner and have a celebratory drink and cheers.

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No.

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You would go with adults.

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Yes.

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As an adult, I'm celebrating adult things.

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Yes, like I like to celebrate going to the casino, but I'm not having my kids sit there while I'm at the casino.

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Aren't we celebrating?

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Yeah.

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That's not.

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Yeah, I agree.

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That's not like, and and well, Broxton came in the hot tub, and I'm just, I don't want him smoking a cigar just with my son sitting there looking at him.

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Well, and I also I don't like when people do things alone.

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It's more like loser.

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It sounds so bad.

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Y'all, the everything was like, it's way more loser to me when someone's drinking alone or well, no, I'm just kidding.

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You're not, but it's true.

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But I think it's way more like it's not a social thing.

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It's more of like an addiction.

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Well, and when you're doing it as well.

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Hey, do you care if I have a cigar tonight?

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Right.

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So I didn't know about it, which I always ask before I go to the casino.

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Right.

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Because it is a thing that could get out of hand.

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Right.

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So it's like a thing I always tell him.

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You hear me, I'm like, I have to ask Kyle before I go.

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Because if he found out I was there and didn't ask, even when Ben did that once, you were mad.

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Yeah.

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You're like, you didn't tell me you're going to the casino.

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It's weird.

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Well, again, that's what I'm saying.

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When when something's secret or alone, I feel like it's weird when it's more social and out in the open.

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It's like, oh yeah, that's a normal thing that you do on occasion.

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When you're doing it like by yourself or with my son.

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Yeah.

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Then I feel like saying my son.

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Like, do you have to have it?

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Is that it gives you that weird feeling.

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And I don't like it.

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He's sitting in the hot tub you're smoking.

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It's weird.

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Yeah, it is weird.

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I wouldn't be like Ben having a drink with like Fox sitting right here.

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It'd be the same.

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Brox and I had a drink tonight to celebrate.

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He can't drink.

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It's weird.

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Yeah.

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So how does he celebrate with a cigar?

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Yeah.

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And we just had that big talk that he told everyone about.

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Well, and I think the other thing, the other part too, is I feel like all the things you're dealing with with your mom or other things, it's like you feel alone in dealing.

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So then when he's just having a jolly old time, that's when I get mad at Ben sometimes.

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When that might have been last night.

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When I'm so tired.

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Yes.

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When I'm tired, I've had a day, and then he's in the jolliest mood.

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I'm just like, you son of a you know, you you just like it, it's like being it with me.

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Yeah, you know, like sometimes I want someone to be in it with me.

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And so when he's like, and then he gets home and he's all hey, yeah, I had a cigar.

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You're like, oh, it must be nice because I did this, then I did went here, and then I went here.

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Yeah.

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I was in a bad mood.

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So then I went in the room.

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And then Broxton came in and he's like, Do you want to watch a show together?

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I think he was worried I was mad at Kyle.

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I felt bad.

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I didn't want to watch a show together.

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No, now you're like, no, carry on.

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Yeah, I was like, don't be a jerk.

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I don't want Broxton worried.

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We're mad at each other.

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You know?

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Yeah.

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So then it's funny though, Ben's really good at this, and Kyle's getting better at it, like mate, changing the mood.

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Yeah.

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So I was mad at him.

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And I'm all, I thought you guys were watching baseball.

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Yeah.

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And then he's all we can watch whatever, honey.

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Yeah.

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Like jerking me.

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Oh, yeah.

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Ben always does that.

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And then he's trying to be nice.

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And then he goes, You want me to rub your feet?

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And I was like, that does sound nice.

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Yeah.

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And I was like, no.

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And then I was mad watching the show.

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And it was, what show was it?

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Oh, it's not.

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Yeah, it did.

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They did hurt.

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And I was like, okay.

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So like 20 minutes in after fake and mad, I was like, I'll take the foot rub.

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Yeah.

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And then it was over.

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Yeah.

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Oh, I do have a fun story.

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So we I was at the where was I?

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Oh, at Bears Football Game on Saturday night last week.

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You were out of town.

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And I sat by, we sat by some people who listened to the podcast.

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And I was talking to the people that I know.

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Yes.

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And I was talking to one of the wives, and I was like, oh, are they doing anything else besides football?

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And she was like, actually, I made him do track because of you guys.

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That's amazing.

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And she said he's loving it and having the best time.

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And it was so cool because I was like, Yeah, see, this is why we don't listen to them.

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And she always thinks we should stop doing the podcast because nobody cares.

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I know.

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Well, well, especially like when it was this week and we're trying to find time.

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It's just, it's not the most convenient hobby or thing.

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And I'm like, is anyone even listening?

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You know?

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Yeah.

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And then she was like, Yeah, because of your thing, it made him do it.

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And it was, he's loving it.

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And I was like, Oh, it was such a good reminder.

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Well, yeah.

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And I was talking to a friend of ours too, that she's younger than us, and she doesn't have mom friends the same age.

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This is why I'm passionate about the podcast.

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Even what we were just talking about.

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I feel like with social media, and I say this all the time, and everything, you feel alone when things aren't perfect.

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And one of the favorite things about our friendship or people we talk to, what they really like about our friendship or how crazy we are is we in it's more your gift.

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You just say it like what's really happening.

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Yeah.

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And I'm like, oh wait, I do it with you all the time.

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I'm like, wait, you guys do that?

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That's why I was asked about you, and I'm like, wait, that happens?

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Yeah.

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And like our families are so normal around each other that it's not like if there's tension, everyone, it's the whole group is seeing the tension.

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Right.

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Or the whole group sees we're mad.

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But I think it's normal for kids to even go, oh, your parents talk to each other sometimes like that.

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Yeah.

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It makes them all feel normal.

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Like, do you know what I mean?

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And it's normal to work through, yeah.

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Yeah, I was talking to my friend and she was like, Well, I got mad, and my husband thought it was weird, I was mad.

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And I was like, Oh my gosh.

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I was just talking to my other best friend.

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She was throwing things in a hotel room the other day, and her husband's like, Are you done?

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Yeah.

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And she's like, No, through a few more things.

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And I was like, see, no one talks about that stuff.

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But it's normal.

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Like, especially women, they're crazy.

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Right.

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I'm crazy.

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I was crazy last night, getting mad, and then Kyle's like, okay.

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And it's like, yeah, that's why I like Landman.

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I like seeing her act crazy.

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Yeah.

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And him react to it.

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It's normal.

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But I think sometimes because of social media, you feel like, or these influencers that, oh come on.

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I know.

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I don't care.

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I can't.

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I know.

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No.

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They normalize the weirdest things.

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And they're like, hi, honey, sweetie, Pookie, you want to come do your chores?

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That is not real life.

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No.

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And all the influencers, like when you watch that Frankie, whatever, or Jake, what's her name?

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Something Frankie?

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I don't never knew she was talking about because she always gets the names wrong.

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I'm all.

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The girl that had the YouTube channel with her family, Ruby Frank.

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Ruby Frank, yeah.

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And she it watched the special.

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Everything looked perfect.

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They had millions of followers, and behind, she's abusing the kids.

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Yeah.

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Like things are not what they seem.

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No.

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Never.

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The couple that had the cute picture and was divorced the next week.

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Yeah.

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Like that's why our podcast, that's my passion with it, is being real.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And to show that hard things are normal.

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You gotta just get through them together.

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Well, and I think sometimes when you're parenting, you're wondering, especially if you don't have anyone going through the same exact thing, like, is this normal?

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Like the way my kids are acting, or or you second guess your decisions.

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So when you hear other people just talking about it's totally like she didn't know, should I force them to do track?

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You know?

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Yeah, and like your husbands, too.

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It's okay to disagree.

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I honestly swear, I have free friends.

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I tell this story to you all the time.

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I don't think I've told it on the podcast.

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I might have.

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Probably.

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Probably four times.

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No, I'm just kidding.

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So rude.

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But um, we all went to dinner once in college and they were talking about like relationships because we were dating, you know, deciding if we marry them.

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Your parents.

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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This story?

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Yeah, you've had they no one had heard their parents fight.

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Yeah, but it's such a good reminder.

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Yeah.

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Like when your passion is done, that's when it's scary.

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Yeah.

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When you stop fighting, is when you don't care anymore.

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Yeah.

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Like I've had that in other relationships.

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Like even in friendships.

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I'm like, okay, I'm not even gonna try anymore.

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Yeah.

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Like you're mad at me no matter what I do.

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So I'm not even, I don't even it doesn't even affect me anymore.

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Yeah, totally.

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So I just think that it's normal.

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So why don't you talk about your fighting that you did?

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Yeah, no.

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No, but you do talk about it openly and I love it.

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Yeah.

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Or you're talking about your parenting openly.

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We don't like fight, fight.

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Like I can count on I can count like our bad fights, but we argue ubicker.

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Yeah.

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And like it's totally normal.

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And we do it in front of our kids.

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Maybe we shouldn't.

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I don't know.

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No, I think it's normal.

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I think it's conflict resolution.

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Like, for example, we talk about like you can't, divorce is such a thing that's so if if if you fight or if you're not happy all the time.

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Like sometime the other day I was driving.

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Oh, Kyle yesterday, he I was with my mom and I had to drive and do this, and then I had to go to the JV banquet, and he took my mom home and stopped to get her prescription.

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And it's so we always tell them what they do wrong, but so often we don't say like the job's really nice.

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Like he was home, he's really good about like doing things when I, if I call and ask him to do something, he's not really that mad about it.

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Yeah.

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I'm more like, ugh, yeah, you know, and I'll be like, hey, can you take this or that?

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And he'll be like, yeah, no problem.

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Just like what just happened.

00:17:43.279 --> 00:17:44.480
But that's not my strength.

00:17:44.559 --> 00:17:46.319
I'm my more like my day's plan to the T.

00:17:46.559 --> 00:17:48.000
I'm very annoyed by the inconvenience.

00:17:48.079 --> 00:17:48.240
Right.

00:17:48.400 --> 00:17:49.599
But he's never annoyed about it.

00:17:49.680 --> 00:17:54.400
And I was like, we never say the good things, we always say like you bug me when you do this.

00:17:54.720 --> 00:17:57.039
But we don't always point out like the things that he does right.

00:17:57.200 --> 00:17:57.440
Right.

00:17:57.680 --> 00:18:00.240
Or when you're away from him for a while, you really miss him.

00:18:00.480 --> 00:18:04.000
You're like, even with the cheer trips, I was like, okay, I really miss him.

00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:04.400
Right.

00:18:04.559 --> 00:18:10.720
Because he is just, it's like your person, you know, where you can just be yourself all the time, like you are.

00:18:11.440 --> 00:18:11.759
Yeah.

00:18:12.240 --> 00:18:13.039
Weirdly yourself.

00:18:13.279 --> 00:18:13.599
Wait, wait.

00:18:13.920 --> 00:18:14.240
Zoeys.

00:18:14.319 --> 00:18:15.680
It's all at the top of my mind.

00:18:16.000 --> 00:18:16.640
No, I know.

00:18:16.960 --> 00:18:17.920
We gotta tell about Zoeys.

00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:18.480
We talked about Zoe.

00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:21.839
Last week they made it a clip, and I have to tell them, we're not making this a clip.

00:18:22.000 --> 00:18:22.480
Zooies?

00:18:22.720 --> 00:18:23.119
Yes.

00:18:23.519 --> 00:18:24.000
It's so good.

00:18:24.480 --> 00:18:26.319
My kids' friends don't need to hear about Zooys.

00:18:26.559 --> 00:18:27.119
Yeah, I get that.

00:18:27.359 --> 00:18:28.079
That's not a program.

00:18:28.400 --> 00:18:36.240
So we recorded last week and we were talking about Zoois, and it's kind of like Chevies, but we never really released the full Chevies.

00:18:36.400 --> 00:18:37.839
But Zoe's happened.

00:18:37.920 --> 00:18:38.720
It happened this week.

00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:40.160
She texted us again.

00:18:40.480 --> 00:18:42.319
Kyle was so worried about Zoeys.

00:18:42.400 --> 00:18:43.599
So let's tell him what Zoeys is.

00:18:43.759 --> 00:18:44.000
Okay.

00:18:44.160 --> 00:18:49.279
So I had the craziest week and I had committed to doing a field trip for Fox to the zoo.

00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:56.480
Well, my week got so crazy, and I was leaving on Thursday for Ken's Nationals, and I had no way to get all my work done if I spent the whole day at the zoo.

00:18:56.640 --> 00:18:59.759
So I asked Ben, hey, can you go to the morning.

00:18:59.920 --> 00:19:00.240
In the morning.

00:19:00.640 --> 00:19:01.279
Which I would never say yes.

00:19:01.680 --> 00:19:02.160
The morning of.

00:19:02.319 --> 00:19:03.920
Can you do the zoo field trip for me?

00:19:04.079 --> 00:19:05.759
And he loves going on field trips.

00:19:05.839 --> 00:19:08.160
He goes on them all the time, but he does not like to ride the bus.

00:19:08.319 --> 00:19:11.680
He very like he did the California, he drove himself.

00:19:11.759 --> 00:19:12.799
He is not a bus guy.

00:19:12.880 --> 00:19:13.680
I don't do the bus either.

00:19:13.839 --> 00:19:15.680
Even on the cheer games, I don't ride the bus.

00:19:15.759 --> 00:19:16.400
I don't mind the bus.

00:19:16.480 --> 00:19:17.680
It's like I can't stand the bus.

00:19:17.839 --> 00:19:20.400
You know, I just don't like not having my own car.

00:19:20.559 --> 00:19:20.799
Yeah.

00:19:20.880 --> 00:19:23.920
So, anyways, I asked him in the morning and he's like, Okay, can I ride the bus?

00:19:24.000 --> 00:19:26.240
I'm like, no, because the teacher, she's a sickler.

00:19:26.480 --> 00:19:28.160
And she said, You're not allowed to ride the bus.

00:19:28.319 --> 00:19:29.599
You're you have to ride the bus.

00:19:29.839 --> 00:19:32.480
And so I asked him, I'm like, no, you have to ride the bus.

00:19:32.559 --> 00:19:34.079
And he's like, I'm not going.

00:19:34.160 --> 00:19:36.000
I'm like, please, I have so much I have to get done.

00:19:36.079 --> 00:19:36.720
And he's like, no.

00:19:36.799 --> 00:19:40.400
So then I do the thing where I offer the incentive, incentivizing.

00:19:40.640 --> 00:19:41.680
So you said I'll do it.

00:19:41.839 --> 00:19:43.839
I said, so let's we can go.

00:19:43.920 --> 00:19:45.920
It's gonna, you know, and he was like, no.

00:19:46.240 --> 00:19:46.960
It wasn't good enough.

00:19:47.359 --> 00:19:48.559
Just to do it, just a normal day.

00:19:48.799 --> 00:19:50.640
Yeah, just normal doing it, you know?

00:19:50.880 --> 00:19:53.279
And so, like that day, like we can do it.

00:19:53.920 --> 00:19:54.240
Right now.

00:19:54.400 --> 00:19:54.640
Yeah.

00:19:54.720 --> 00:19:58.559
And he was like, No, like it's not worth the boss.

00:19:58.720 --> 00:20:01.359
And I mean, I was kind of offended, like, have you seen me?

00:20:01.440 --> 00:20:02.319
No, I'm just kidding.

00:20:02.480 --> 00:20:03.920
But I was like, okay.

00:20:04.160 --> 00:20:06.960
Um, so then I'm like, shoot, I gotta up the ante.

00:20:07.119 --> 00:20:09.680
And so we always joke, I'm a pillow princess, whatever.

00:20:09.839 --> 00:20:12.160
So, which I am, and I don't care, it's fine.

00:20:12.400 --> 00:20:17.519
And so I was like, okay, we'll we'll do a little more crazy, you know, like a little bit more.

00:20:17.599 --> 00:20:21.279
Um, I don't even know the right numbers, numbers.

00:20:21.440 --> 00:20:23.200
There's some certain numbers, I don't know.

00:20:23.279 --> 00:20:26.880
But I was basically like, yeah, we'll I'll sweeten the deal, like it'll be more exciting.

00:20:27.039 --> 00:20:29.920
And he was like, I really don't want to ride the bus.

00:20:30.000 --> 00:20:31.759
And I'm like, oh my gosh, this is crazy.

00:20:31.920 --> 00:20:33.839
So then I really had to be descriptive.

00:20:33.920 --> 00:20:36.480
I'm like, okay, we're doing and it can happen today.

00:20:36.640 --> 00:20:43.839
And then he finally was like, I think he knew by everything I was offering that I really needed him to go.

00:20:43.920 --> 00:20:45.039
So he was like, Okay, fine.

00:20:45.200 --> 00:20:45.759
So he went.

00:20:45.920 --> 00:20:46.720
So, anyways.

00:20:46.960 --> 00:20:49.039
So you would say today and another time?

00:20:49.759 --> 00:20:53.759
Well, we couldn't do all the things that you promised that morning.

00:20:53.920 --> 00:20:54.240
Yes.

00:20:54.559 --> 00:20:59.039
So he said yes, and then you all of a sudden said, Well, we can't do all those things right now.

00:20:59.839 --> 00:21:02.640
I said, Yeah, we can't do them right now because we're leaving for sure.

00:21:02.880 --> 00:21:03.519
After he said yes.

00:21:03.680 --> 00:21:05.200
Well, no, he knew we couldn't do them right now.

00:21:05.519 --> 00:21:07.599
So I was like, later, we'll do this and we'll do that.

00:21:07.759 --> 00:21:08.880
So he's looking forward to that.

00:21:08.960 --> 00:21:09.519
Zooies.

00:21:09.680 --> 00:21:11.440
Oh, so No, but you did the one time.

00:21:11.519 --> 00:21:13.119
So you said right now I'll do this.

00:21:13.359 --> 00:21:14.160
Just regular, yeah.

00:21:14.319 --> 00:21:15.039
And he saw, okay.

00:21:15.119 --> 00:21:17.599
Yes, and then another time we'll do anything.

00:21:17.839 --> 00:21:20.000
It's gonna be a little bit more yeah, exciting.

00:21:20.240 --> 00:21:20.640
Exciting.

00:21:20.799 --> 00:21:22.160
And so I was like, fine.

00:21:22.400 --> 00:21:25.920
So then it was like this thing was a week and gone on.

00:21:26.079 --> 00:21:28.000
It was longer than a week it took to get to well.

00:21:28.079 --> 00:21:30.400
I went out of town, and then it was like I was tired.

00:21:30.480 --> 00:21:36.000
I was like, and then like a few times we were watching a show and I just didn't feel like doing it, so I pretend uh towards the end of the show, I pretend to fall asleep.

00:21:36.319 --> 00:21:36.960
Oh, here we go.

00:21:37.119 --> 00:21:39.440
I can't put that on the I guess I'm gonna get eaten alive.

00:21:39.519 --> 00:21:40.880
Like, oh my god, a horrible one.

00:21:41.200 --> 00:21:42.880
You knew he'd want to, and then you just I knew.

00:21:42.960 --> 00:21:44.079
Well, it was like he'd wake you.

00:21:44.319 --> 00:21:46.799
He was like tonight's Zooies, you know, and I'm like, yeah, after the show.

00:21:46.880 --> 00:21:47.839
And then I'm joking.

00:21:48.079 --> 00:21:52.319
I'm all you know, like he won't wake you?

00:21:52.480 --> 00:21:53.519
No, wake me.

00:21:53.599 --> 00:21:53.839
No.

00:21:54.400 --> 00:21:55.759
Oh God, it always wakes me up.

00:21:56.000 --> 00:21:56.799
Wakes you up?

00:21:56.960 --> 00:21:58.000
Oh, I would be raging.

00:21:58.079 --> 00:21:59.200
I'd be like, no, I'm sleeping.

00:21:59.359 --> 00:21:59.759
Oh, I don't mind.

00:22:00.160 --> 00:22:00.319
It.

00:22:00.480 --> 00:22:00.880
Oh really?

00:22:01.039 --> 00:22:02.160
I don't mind though.

00:22:02.400 --> 00:22:03.599
Well, I was fake sleeping.

00:22:04.000 --> 00:22:06.160
Yeah, but not fake sleep, but I was tired.

00:22:06.880 --> 00:22:07.599
I was too tired.

00:22:07.759 --> 00:22:08.559
You were fake sleeping.

00:22:08.960 --> 00:22:12.559
No, I was tired and then I just drifted off, and then I just knew I was drifting and I didn't.

00:22:13.039 --> 00:22:14.480
So once you're asleep, he won't wake you.

00:22:14.640 --> 00:22:14.799
No.

00:22:15.279 --> 00:22:15.599
Okay.

00:22:16.000 --> 00:22:19.359
So, anyways, we ended up finally doing oh, so then somehow Kyle got wind of it.

00:22:19.440 --> 00:22:20.000
Yeah, he must.

00:22:20.480 --> 00:22:23.039
I think Ben told him about it because I was like, you didn't tell him.

00:22:23.200 --> 00:22:24.720
No, I would never tell him about Zooys.

00:22:24.960 --> 00:22:27.839
And then we called it Zooys because I'm like, did you do the things yet?

00:22:27.920 --> 00:22:28.880
Because you know I get romantic.

00:22:29.039 --> 00:22:31.839
Well, we call doing it Dewey's because I had the IES everywhere.

00:22:32.160 --> 00:22:32.640
Everybody knows.

00:22:32.799 --> 00:22:35.920
So then Zoo E's is like Dewey's for the zoo.

00:22:36.160 --> 00:22:36.480
Yeah.

00:22:36.640 --> 00:22:39.119
So, anyways, Kyle found out about Zooys.

00:22:39.200 --> 00:22:40.799
And then Ben was just said she has a baby.

00:22:41.039 --> 00:22:44.640
Ben is obsessed with making sure his friend gets what he's owed.

00:22:44.799 --> 00:22:50.160
He's literally texting our group text multiple times, like, you better, that's not cool.

00:22:50.319 --> 00:22:52.400
I'm like, this is a psycho.

00:22:52.799 --> 00:22:55.359
And then it'd be like, He's all you better pay up.

00:22:55.599 --> 00:22:56.559
And he called it Zoey's night.

00:22:56.720 --> 00:22:58.079
Yeah, he's all Zoeys tonight.

00:22:58.160 --> 00:22:58.559
You better.

00:22:58.640 --> 00:23:01.279
It's been too long and you better give him what he's deserved.

00:23:01.440 --> 00:23:02.960
I'm like, is this your spokesperson?

00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:06.240
And Ben's like, yeah, yeah, like this is his friend.

00:23:06.319 --> 00:23:07.839
I'm like, you can't even stand up to me.

00:23:07.920 --> 00:23:09.440
You gotta have your friend stand up to me.

00:23:09.519 --> 00:23:10.400
Like, this is Tom.

00:23:10.720 --> 00:23:11.839
Well, Kyle and Tisha are the same.

00:23:12.000 --> 00:23:12.480
We're like brother.

00:23:13.839 --> 00:23:14.480
Yeah, yeah.

00:23:14.640 --> 00:23:17.279
So then he kept texting me, like, did Zoois happen?

00:23:17.519 --> 00:23:18.559
Like on our group?

00:23:18.720 --> 00:23:20.400
And I'm like, oh my God.

00:23:20.640 --> 00:23:24.000
So it finally happened, and now Kyle can just be like, it's 10:30 at night.

00:23:24.079 --> 00:23:25.440
She goes, Zooies happen.

00:23:25.680 --> 00:23:27.279
Yeah, because I'm sick of hearing about it.

00:23:27.440 --> 00:23:30.480
I'm not gonna get one more text message and tell me I better do Zooys.

00:23:30.640 --> 00:23:31.920
I'm like, shut them up.

00:23:32.160 --> 00:23:35.039
So I said, Yeah, Zoo's happened, and you can shut up now.

00:23:35.200 --> 00:23:36.240
And then tell him what Ben said.

00:23:36.319 --> 00:23:38.720
Oh yeah, Ben said, Yeah, we have video, but he was joking.

00:23:39.119 --> 00:23:40.000
I would never do that.

00:23:40.079 --> 00:23:41.440
Nowadays where people can hack me.

00:23:41.680 --> 00:23:42.640
No, it's scary.

00:23:42.799 --> 00:23:43.519
Oh, it's horrible.

00:23:43.680 --> 00:23:44.160
I know.

00:23:44.480 --> 00:23:45.279
Gosh.

00:23:45.680 --> 00:23:46.480
The Zooies.

00:23:46.720 --> 00:23:48.960
I know I told Kyle you told me I'd give it up too easy.

00:23:49.119 --> 00:23:50.720
Because he's like, we were talking about Zoe.

00:23:51.279 --> 00:23:53.519
Okay, Zoe's is like just a Tuesday at your house.

00:23:53.599 --> 00:23:58.480
Like so the other day that morning, he's all she did the Zooies, you know, because we both saw the text that morning.

00:23:58.799 --> 00:24:02.160
And I was like, yeah, and and he's all, what is Zoois?

00:24:02.480 --> 00:24:02.880
You know?

00:24:03.039 --> 00:24:07.200
And like, and I was like, well, you know, and he's like, Oh, I'm not doing anything for that.

00:24:07.599 --> 00:24:10.480
I was like, Yeah, Tisha told me I just do all that way too easily.

00:24:10.640 --> 00:24:10.960
Yeah.

00:24:11.119 --> 00:24:13.759
And he's like, Yeah, well, you know, I get it.

00:24:14.000 --> 00:24:15.119
I like having a little leverage.

00:24:15.519 --> 00:24:17.039
Yeah, I don't have any leverage in that area.

00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:18.079
No, not in that area.

00:24:18.319 --> 00:24:20.079
You could be like, I'm not cooking dinner.

00:24:20.160 --> 00:24:25.519
If I said that to Ben, if I said Ben, I'm not cooking dinner, he'd be like, Actually, I should use that more because I do think he would care.

00:24:25.680 --> 00:24:28.720
Yes, and Ben, if I said that, he'd be like, Yeah, like every other day, you know?

00:24:28.960 --> 00:24:31.039
Like, just like you with the zoo.

00:24:31.359 --> 00:24:31.920
Yeah.

00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:33.279
Oh, that's so funny.

00:24:33.440 --> 00:24:35.119
Yeah, I should, because he wouldn't care about that.

00:24:35.279 --> 00:24:35.839
Yeah, like well.

00:24:36.559 --> 00:24:39.200
And like he likes good dinners and he likes it all set up nicely.

00:24:39.519 --> 00:24:40.640
Yeah, you could withhold that.

00:24:40.880 --> 00:24:42.559
Like, if you do this, I'll make really good dinners.

00:24:42.720 --> 00:24:50.000
I haven't really had to really, I think that we've really, between the four of us, figured out the chemistry of how to get Kyle to say yes to things.

00:24:50.160 --> 00:24:51.599
So I'm gonna have to talk to him about that.

00:24:51.680 --> 00:24:52.720
No, T should just talk to him.

00:24:52.799 --> 00:24:54.079
I don't, we're not fighting as much.

00:24:54.240 --> 00:24:54.799
No, you know?

00:24:55.039 --> 00:24:57.759
I'm just like, hey, Kyle, we got this trip planned and these are the dates.

00:24:58.079 --> 00:25:00.319
I feel like trips were the biggest thing we like thought about.

00:25:00.400 --> 00:25:01.039
Yeah.

00:25:01.519 --> 00:25:04.400
So I do want to get a dog soon though, so I might need some help.

00:25:04.559 --> 00:25:05.359
Yeah, I gotta talk to him.

00:25:05.680 --> 00:25:07.839
Yeah, because we're almost done with like all starts here.

00:25:08.240 --> 00:25:09.839
And so we travel a lot for that.

00:25:10.079 --> 00:25:13.599
By the way, we also, so I went on the trip to Nationals, we won.

00:25:13.759 --> 00:25:14.960
You guys, it was amazing.

00:25:15.200 --> 00:25:16.880
I gotta talk about the pit to the palace.

00:25:17.119 --> 00:25:19.440
There was a lot of things that went on before Nationals as a coach.

00:25:19.519 --> 00:25:20.559
You know, it's stressful.

00:25:20.720 --> 00:25:22.880
Right before you're wondering, is it really gonna happen?

00:25:22.960 --> 00:25:23.599
Is this the moment?

00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:24.960
Is all the hard work worth it?

00:25:25.119 --> 00:25:27.119
Is all the practices, is all the things?

00:25:27.440 --> 00:25:29.759
And then I had some other stuff in my personal life with my mom.

00:25:29.839 --> 00:25:32.000
It's been really hard during comp season.

00:25:32.160 --> 00:25:33.599
She had been in ICU twice.

00:25:33.759 --> 00:25:34.720
I mean, it's been really hard.

00:25:34.960 --> 00:25:35.359
A lot, yeah.

00:25:35.440 --> 00:25:39.200
And then I had some personal things, you know, just a lot of like your hemorrhoids.

00:25:39.440 --> 00:25:40.000
Those are flared.

00:25:40.240 --> 00:25:41.039
I didn't have hemorrhoids.

00:25:41.119 --> 00:25:41.680
I've never had that.

00:25:41.759 --> 00:25:42.079
You have.

00:25:42.240 --> 00:25:43.039
I have not.

00:25:43.200 --> 00:25:44.480
Yeah, I have never.

00:25:44.640 --> 00:25:46.319
It just because I didn't have kids that way.

00:25:46.400 --> 00:25:46.640
Yeah.

00:25:46.799 --> 00:25:47.920
It's never flared up.

00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:48.240
Yeah.

00:25:48.400 --> 00:25:49.839
A lot of our friends have had hemorrhoids.

00:25:49.920 --> 00:25:50.880
I don't, I think it's common.

00:25:51.039 --> 00:25:51.279
Yeah.

00:25:51.440 --> 00:25:52.160
Especially at our age.

00:25:52.640 --> 00:25:54.400
Well, Bear will like sit on the toilet on his phone.

00:25:54.480 --> 00:25:56.640
I'm like, don't sit on the toilet, you're gonna get a hemorrhoid.

00:25:56.880 --> 00:25:58.240
Like, yeah.

00:25:58.559 --> 00:25:59.039
It's true.

00:25:59.680 --> 00:26:00.240
Yeah.

00:26:01.839 --> 00:26:02.960
There's so many things to tell.

00:26:03.119 --> 00:26:03.359
What?

00:26:03.519 --> 00:26:04.480
No, but let me finish this.

00:26:04.880 --> 00:26:05.279
Wait, what was it?

00:26:05.519 --> 00:26:06.319
No, I'll remember it.

00:26:06.480 --> 00:26:06.720
Okay.

00:26:06.960 --> 00:26:09.119
So we go and it was amazing.

00:26:09.200 --> 00:26:10.079
We prayed about it a lot.

00:26:10.240 --> 00:26:11.119
The girls were praying.

00:26:11.200 --> 00:26:12.480
It was like the coolest weekend.

00:26:12.559 --> 00:26:13.839
You were there, you were into it.

00:26:14.240 --> 00:26:16.079
So the first day we went, they had a fall.

00:26:16.160 --> 00:26:17.039
They never have a fall.

00:26:17.359 --> 00:26:18.559
We thought it was over.

00:26:18.720 --> 00:26:20.559
I was like, oh my gosh.

00:26:20.799 --> 00:26:24.079
But the night before we left for nationals, we all went to church.

00:26:24.160 --> 00:26:25.359
Or no, two nights before.

00:26:25.519 --> 00:26:28.480
The Monday before, JV, varsity, a bunch of girls all went to church.

00:26:28.559 --> 00:26:32.000
Marky and I went to church, who coaches with me, and the service was so good.

00:26:32.160 --> 00:26:35.440
You had told me it was gonna be good and relatable to life right now.

00:26:35.519 --> 00:26:37.839
You know, when that happens, and you're literally like, he's talking right to me.

00:26:38.000 --> 00:26:38.160
Yeah.

00:26:38.319 --> 00:26:40.319
It was that church about the pit to the palace.

00:26:40.720 --> 00:26:44.160
And I have used this phrase in the last week, maybe 10 times.

00:26:44.240 --> 00:26:46.799
Yeah, maybe like more than one should use a phrase.

00:26:46.880 --> 00:26:47.440
No, I'm not sure.

00:26:47.599 --> 00:26:50.400
It's rude because when they're not around, you're talking to me nice.

00:26:50.480 --> 00:26:52.160
No, so knock it off.

00:26:52.319 --> 00:26:54.480
No, I do feel like I make fun of you more than I used to.

00:26:54.720 --> 00:26:55.200
Yeah, yeah.

00:26:55.359 --> 00:26:56.480
Now it's like it's flicked.

00:26:56.559 --> 00:26:57.519
Yeah, the tables have turned.

00:26:57.680 --> 00:26:58.480
You know what that happened?

00:26:58.559 --> 00:26:58.799
Yeah.

00:26:58.960 --> 00:27:01.839
Like you're the one that the guy I liked you, and then all of a sudden you're all.

00:27:02.079 --> 00:27:02.799
I haven't made fun of it.

00:27:02.880 --> 00:27:03.839
I said your pants are nice.

00:27:04.000 --> 00:27:04.720
Yeah, you're right.

00:27:04.960 --> 00:27:06.880
I have been so nice, and now I'm getting beaten.

00:27:07.200 --> 00:27:10.000
Now I'm the the make funner, and you're the make funny.

00:27:10.480 --> 00:27:11.440
Yes, you know why?

00:27:11.519 --> 00:27:12.160
Because I'm tired.

00:27:12.319 --> 00:27:12.480
Yeah.

00:27:12.799 --> 00:27:14.000
And I don't have the will.

00:27:14.240 --> 00:27:15.039
I'm I'm a horse.

00:27:15.359 --> 00:27:16.319
You're wearing down, yeah.

00:27:16.799 --> 00:27:21.119
Anyways, so the service is about how God builds your character through the pit.

00:27:21.279 --> 00:27:30.960
And how sometimes, and I there was an Instagram about this today too, and how we always want to be out of the pit, but oh your ability to withstand pain is your ability to grow in your character.

00:27:31.119 --> 00:27:31.279
Right.

00:27:31.440 --> 00:27:34.240
So as soon as they said that at church, I was like, okay, I can handle pain.

00:27:34.319 --> 00:27:34.480
Yeah.

00:27:34.720 --> 00:27:37.680
As long as I know something good's coming, or I'm gonna be better before it.

00:27:37.839 --> 00:27:40.799
But I think when you're in the pain, sometimes you feel like you're doing something wrong.

00:27:40.880 --> 00:27:41.119
Yeah.

00:27:41.279 --> 00:27:44.319
Or you've got to make a change because there's something wrong while you're in pain.

00:27:44.400 --> 00:27:44.559
Right.

00:27:44.720 --> 00:27:48.000
Especially in America, I think we're very like happy.

00:27:48.160 --> 00:27:49.200
Everything should be happy and good.

00:27:49.440 --> 00:27:51.519
Well, and even like no struggle.

00:27:51.759 --> 00:27:53.680
Yeah, but like their struggle is everything.

00:27:53.920 --> 00:27:56.319
Well, other countries, I feel like there's a lot more struggle in the day.

00:27:56.559 --> 00:28:00.160
Yeah, like when we're in um on our mission trip, they were just struggling to get water.

00:28:00.319 --> 00:28:00.480
Right.

00:28:00.640 --> 00:28:02.720
They were just struggling, they were carrying everything on their heads.

00:28:02.960 --> 00:28:05.119
They didn't even have concrete on the floor of their homes.

00:28:05.519 --> 00:28:13.359
But when you view str when you have struggle a lot and you view it as just like the norm, then you're not so put off by it.

00:28:13.920 --> 00:28:16.400
But I know that and I was still put off.

00:28:16.559 --> 00:28:16.960
Yeah.

00:28:17.279 --> 00:28:18.160
Like I'm tired.

00:28:18.400 --> 00:28:18.640
Right.

00:28:18.880 --> 00:28:19.759
This is a lot of struggle.

00:28:19.920 --> 00:28:20.160
Yeah.

00:28:20.240 --> 00:28:20.400
Yeah.

00:28:20.640 --> 00:28:24.480
So I think even if you know it's good for you when you're in it, it's not always the funnest.

00:28:24.720 --> 00:28:25.119
Totally.

00:28:25.359 --> 00:28:26.720
Because you think you have to pivot.

00:28:26.799 --> 00:28:28.160
Like maybe I'm doing something wrong.

00:28:28.319 --> 00:28:28.480
Right.

00:28:28.640 --> 00:28:29.839
Maybe I'm supposed to change something.

00:28:30.000 --> 00:28:30.079
Yeah.

00:28:30.240 --> 00:28:31.200
Maybe God's not working this way.

00:28:31.599 --> 00:28:32.400
Not a lot of time, it is.

00:28:32.640 --> 00:28:34.079
Sometimes it's just you gotta go through it.

00:28:34.960 --> 00:28:35.440
Thank you.

00:28:36.079 --> 00:28:36.799
Do you want to finish it?

00:28:36.880 --> 00:28:37.039
No.

00:28:37.279 --> 00:28:37.519
No, go.

00:28:37.839 --> 00:28:38.480
No, I'm just kidding.

00:28:38.720 --> 00:28:41.599
But no, but I think for me, I don't mind struggle.

00:28:41.680 --> 00:28:42.400
I don't mind pain.

00:28:42.480 --> 00:28:44.000
I do the hard road all the time.

00:28:44.319 --> 00:28:49.440
But when things are happening to you, it doesn't feel like it's like I don't like people mad at me.

00:28:49.759 --> 00:28:49.920
Yeah.

00:28:50.319 --> 00:28:52.400
So I would be, I would make it right.

00:28:52.559 --> 00:28:52.720
Yeah.

00:28:52.960 --> 00:28:55.519
Because that's what I I don't want the weirdness.

00:28:55.759 --> 00:28:55.920
Right.

00:28:56.160 --> 00:29:00.319
But sometimes I don't always have to sometimes you don't make a stance by making everyone happy all the time.

00:29:00.559 --> 00:29:00.799
Totally.

00:29:00.960 --> 00:29:04.480
Sometimes you don't like make a change by making sure everyone's happy.

00:29:04.559 --> 00:29:09.119
You have to do what's what like God's calling you to do rather than what the world's telling you to do.

00:29:09.440 --> 00:29:11.440
Because if you always make everyone happy, you're never gonna stand for something.

00:29:11.680 --> 00:29:12.799
Well, and you can't make everyone happy.

00:29:12.880 --> 00:29:13.759
So Totally.

00:29:14.400 --> 00:29:19.119
So, anyways, in the pit, I was like really frustrated, like, what do I need to do?

00:29:19.200 --> 00:29:19.920
What do I need to change?

00:29:20.000 --> 00:29:22.960
And when I went to church that day, then I was like, no, I just need to sit.

00:29:23.039 --> 00:29:23.279
Right.

00:29:23.440 --> 00:29:25.519
Just sit in this struggle and just trust.

00:29:25.680 --> 00:29:29.039
So then when they fell, I was like, great, it's not working out.

00:29:29.200 --> 00:29:29.680
This isn't good.

00:29:30.000 --> 00:29:31.039
This is more struggle now.

00:29:31.200 --> 00:29:31.440
Yeah.

00:29:31.680 --> 00:29:32.720
Like, this is gonna be horrible.

00:29:32.799 --> 00:29:36.319
And then we all prayed about it, and then we found out they were in first, even with the fall.

00:29:36.559 --> 00:29:36.799
Crazy.

00:29:36.960 --> 00:29:45.920
And then it was like a moment we're like, this is, but what was cool was before we found out, some of the girls came in my room and we talked about how God uses the pit to the palace.

00:29:46.160 --> 00:29:50.720
And I said, What if today is just the pit and we're gonna learn and we're gonna grow and we're gonna be better.

00:29:50.799 --> 00:29:55.359
And he's taking us on this journey to develop us because tomorrow is the palace, right?

00:29:55.440 --> 00:29:56.799
And everything's gonna work out.

00:29:57.039 --> 00:30:01.599
And we had this cool talk, and then when we found out, all the girls were like, It God did it.

00:30:02.000 --> 00:30:04.480
It wasn't about us, it was about him, not us.

00:30:04.640 --> 00:30:09.599
Like, so it was so cool that if that wouldn't have happened, it wouldn't have felt like it was God taking us through.

00:30:09.839 --> 00:30:11.119
Yeah, they're such a great group of girls.

00:30:11.440 --> 00:30:15.200
Oh, they're the best group of girls with the best families, with the best everything.

00:30:15.519 --> 00:30:16.000
It's so sad.

00:30:16.160 --> 00:30:17.279
I'm like so cool.

00:30:17.519 --> 00:30:20.400
So then the next day they went and they just nailed it.

00:30:20.480 --> 00:30:23.359
It was like an out-of-body, so cool to watch them.

00:30:24.400 --> 00:30:26.160
We were like screaming.

00:30:26.319 --> 00:30:28.559
It like it was just a moment I'll never forget.

00:30:28.720 --> 00:30:29.119
Me too.

00:30:29.359 --> 00:30:29.680
All of us.

00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:32.799
I think everybody involved because they have been the best kids.

00:30:32.960 --> 00:30:34.559
They have done everything right all year.

00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:36.799
They're so kind, they're so good to other people.

00:30:37.279 --> 00:30:38.480
They worked their butts off.

00:30:38.559 --> 00:30:40.480
We have all the best people working with them.

00:30:40.799 --> 00:30:44.559
It was like it felt like God had this moment, and then the day before we'll have maybe it wasn't.

00:30:44.640 --> 00:30:48.799
And then when it was, yeah, it was like God's building your story.

00:30:49.039 --> 00:30:51.200
Don't give up in the pit of the story.

00:30:51.359 --> 00:30:51.680
Right.

00:30:51.920 --> 00:30:54.400
So, more serious talk, I know you get bored.

00:30:54.480 --> 00:31:01.920
But then this weekend, I got to meet with one of my, you know, old cheerleaders at she came to Nationals and we had this great talk, and she's going through another pit.

00:31:02.000 --> 00:31:02.240
Oh, yeah.

00:31:02.480 --> 00:31:04.480
So I'm like, oh my gosh, don't do it.

00:31:04.559 --> 00:31:05.119
Don't give up.

00:31:05.279 --> 00:31:06.960
God's not telling you it's done.

00:31:07.279 --> 00:31:11.839
And it I we're talking about having kids, which is a very personal for a woman.

00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:17.519
When you're not able to get pregnant when you think you are, it is a very yeah, hard thing.

00:31:18.160 --> 00:31:20.000
And I don't think either of us have really been through that.

00:31:20.160 --> 00:31:22.319
I mean, you had a miscarriage and it was very hard.

00:31:22.480 --> 00:31:23.039
We talked about that.

00:31:23.200 --> 00:31:23.359
Right.

00:31:23.599 --> 00:31:24.240
Dads again.

00:31:24.400 --> 00:31:26.400
But I never like struggled to get for years.

00:31:26.480 --> 00:31:26.640
Yeah.

00:31:26.799 --> 00:31:31.279
You know, and we have had a bunch of friends now that have gone through struggle.

00:31:31.920 --> 00:31:36.480
We even have like a friend of ours last this at the Christmas party, right?

00:31:36.640 --> 00:31:36.960
My neighbor.

00:31:37.200 --> 00:31:38.000
Oh, yeah, and we prayed.

00:31:38.160 --> 00:31:42.799
We told her our stories about how God, you know, had this with our friends, and we've gotten together and we've prayed.

00:31:42.960 --> 00:31:56.880
And our one friend, when she was trying to get pregnant, when she was our first friend to get pregnant, she had a miscarriage, then didn't get pregnant for two years, and bought the watch, this ovulation watch, and we told her, don't trust the she broke the watch at a wedding and was crying.

00:31:56.960 --> 00:31:58.960
And we all said, Don't worry about the watch, God has a plan.

00:31:59.119 --> 00:32:03.519
We all got in the circle, and we had some beverages too, which is weird when you do that, you know.

00:32:03.680 --> 00:32:05.839
We've done that a few every time.

00:32:06.000 --> 00:32:06.319
Yeah.

00:32:06.559 --> 00:32:08.319
Almost with this story.

00:32:08.559 --> 00:32:12.319
Because at the Jen's bridal shower, we had those mimosas.

00:32:12.400 --> 00:32:12.640
Oh, yeah.

00:32:12.799 --> 00:32:13.359
And we prayed.

00:32:13.519 --> 00:32:13.680
Yeah.

00:32:13.839 --> 00:32:16.160
And then at the Christmas party, I know you were way wasted.

00:32:16.480 --> 00:32:16.960
No, I'm not.

00:32:17.200 --> 00:32:22.880
So, anyways, we prayed in a circle at the wedding about not trusting God with his timing and not the watch.

00:32:23.039 --> 00:32:25.119
And then our friend got pregnant the next month.

00:32:25.200 --> 00:32:25.440
Right.

00:32:25.599 --> 00:32:27.119
And it wasn't the watch, it was God.

00:32:27.200 --> 00:32:27.359
Yeah.

00:32:27.519 --> 00:32:33.680
Then at this, we went we had a bridal shower for our good friend, and we all got, and I never get like drunk.

00:32:33.839 --> 00:32:34.000
Right.

00:32:34.160 --> 00:32:35.200
We had one mimosa.

00:32:35.440 --> 00:32:38.079
They must have been, I don't know what was in them.

00:32:38.240 --> 00:32:38.480
Yeah.

00:32:38.640 --> 00:32:39.279
It was the work.

00:32:39.599 --> 00:32:41.119
We were all, our poor friend who's pregnant.

00:32:41.599 --> 00:32:44.000
I think that place closed down, and I mean, I know why.

00:32:44.079 --> 00:32:45.039
It was, yeah, it was weird.

00:32:45.440 --> 00:32:47.039
I was completely one.

00:32:47.359 --> 00:32:47.680
Yeah.

00:32:47.839 --> 00:32:49.200
Like, I couldn't even work that day.

00:32:49.279 --> 00:32:50.400
People had to show homes for me.

00:32:50.480 --> 00:32:50.640
Yeah.

00:32:50.799 --> 00:32:51.279
Our all our.

00:32:51.759 --> 00:32:56.240
I was driving, and you and Jen are passed out in the passenger and backseat home.

00:32:56.319 --> 00:32:58.240
I'm all, okay, well, you know.

00:32:58.400 --> 00:33:00.000
No, our husbands were like, what happened at this?

00:33:01.440 --> 00:33:01.599
Yeah.

00:33:01.839 --> 00:33:03.440
But one of our friends was there.

00:33:03.599 --> 00:33:04.559
Her friend was there.

00:33:04.720 --> 00:33:09.599
She had cried to me at the table because I, when I drink, I think everyone's plotting against me.

00:33:09.759 --> 00:33:10.000
I know.

00:33:10.079 --> 00:33:11.119
We need to talk about that.

00:33:11.440 --> 00:33:14.559
Like, if like there's fun drunks and there's I'm not a friend drunk.

00:33:14.799 --> 00:33:16.240
Emo drunk, emotional drunk.

00:33:16.400 --> 00:33:16.720
Oh my gosh.

00:33:17.039 --> 00:33:18.240
She gets mad when I say emo.

00:33:22.319 --> 00:33:22.799
Oh, yeah, yeah.

00:33:22.880 --> 00:33:23.279
I know you're just drinking.

00:33:23.359 --> 00:33:23.680
She is.

00:33:24.000 --> 00:33:26.240
And it's like, no, it doesn't do well for me.

00:33:26.480 --> 00:33:29.359
I only one time in my whole life have I been an emotional drunk.

00:33:29.519 --> 00:33:31.279
Other than that, I'm a super fun drunk.

00:33:31.359 --> 00:33:32.000
I'm like happy.

00:33:32.240 --> 00:33:32.960
So is my husband.

00:33:33.119 --> 00:33:34.480
Yeah, you're I'm not fun.

00:33:34.640 --> 00:33:35.279
Yeah, it's a different.

00:33:35.599 --> 00:33:36.160
It's horrible.

00:33:36.240 --> 00:33:36.480
Yeah.

00:33:36.640 --> 00:33:38.000
I get really in my head.

00:33:38.079 --> 00:33:39.119
I think everyone's plotting.

00:33:39.279 --> 00:33:40.799
I fight with all my people I love.

00:33:40.960 --> 00:33:41.359
Yeah.

00:33:41.519 --> 00:33:42.160
It's horrible.

00:33:42.319 --> 00:33:42.480
Yeah.

00:33:42.559 --> 00:33:43.920
I wouldn't, yeah, that's crazy.

00:33:44.160 --> 00:33:45.119
I wouldn't want to drink.

00:33:45.279 --> 00:33:45.440
Yeah.

00:33:45.599 --> 00:33:47.119
I'd be like, this is awful.

00:33:47.359 --> 00:33:49.279
Do I want to turn into a horrible person and ruin everyone's night?

00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:49.519
Yeah.

00:33:49.759 --> 00:33:50.640
I'll stay sober.

00:33:50.880 --> 00:33:51.279
Yeah, exactly.

00:33:51.599 --> 00:33:53.839
But that night I was like, I because I accidentally got drunk.

00:33:53.920 --> 00:33:56.319
I thought you and Jen were plotting against me.

00:33:56.480 --> 00:33:58.960
And I was, so I wouldn't sit with them at the table.

00:33:59.200 --> 00:34:00.720
Yeah, that's what we're dealing with here.

00:34:00.960 --> 00:34:01.200
Yeah.

00:34:01.279 --> 00:34:05.200
So they all my good friends my whole life were sitting at a table, and I went and sat with all these people I don't know.

00:34:05.359 --> 00:34:05.680
Yeah.

00:34:05.920 --> 00:34:07.440
And I was all drunk, you know.

00:34:07.599 --> 00:34:09.920
So I was all, so tell me about yourself, you know?

00:34:10.000 --> 00:34:10.159
Yeah.

00:34:10.320 --> 00:34:12.960
And then the girl, I I get really deep with people quickly.

00:34:13.280 --> 00:34:14.559
Oh, it's so annoying.

00:34:14.880 --> 00:34:19.360
It's like we're like at the grocery store, and she's like, Oh, now tell me, like any history.

00:34:19.679 --> 00:34:20.559
I'll be praying with them.

00:34:20.639 --> 00:34:20.960
Yeah.

00:34:21.119 --> 00:34:22.880
And I'm like, I get deep right away.

00:34:23.280 --> 00:34:24.400
I'm not good with small talk.

00:34:24.480 --> 00:34:25.199
So I go right in.

00:34:25.360 --> 00:34:27.280
I'm not good with small talk either, but I'm not getting deep.

00:34:27.440 --> 00:34:28.400
No, you can do it more.

00:34:28.480 --> 00:34:30.159
Because you don't always want people to know the real deal.

00:34:30.320 --> 00:34:31.679
No, you're the good with small talk too.

00:34:31.840 --> 00:34:33.039
Yeah, but you'll be standoffish.

00:34:33.440 --> 00:34:34.400
I just ignore him.

00:34:34.559 --> 00:34:34.880
Oh.

00:34:35.119 --> 00:34:37.119
Yeah, the deep is like, oh my God.

00:34:37.440 --> 00:34:38.559
I've met a lot of nice people that's.

00:34:38.639 --> 00:34:44.480
Well, and sometimes she's doing it, and I'm the wingman standing right there because we're like, no, we'll be like, she's like, hey, let's get lunch.

00:34:44.639 --> 00:34:48.000
We're walking, and then she runs into someone, and then it's a 20-minute deep talk.

00:34:48.079 --> 00:34:48.159
Yeah.

00:34:48.400 --> 00:34:48.719
Crying.

00:34:48.960 --> 00:34:50.480
And I'm standing there and it's all.

00:34:50.719 --> 00:34:52.320
I'm doing my thumbs.

00:34:52.400 --> 00:34:55.360
I'm like, well, that day you were talking to me, so it's fine.

00:34:55.760 --> 00:35:01.119
So the girl said she's but it was really hard for her because her and our friend were in it together trying to get pregnant.

00:35:01.360 --> 00:35:03.199
Our friend Jen, she doesn't mind, I don't think.

00:35:03.440 --> 00:35:05.599
She's very open about her struggle because she likes to help people.

00:35:05.760 --> 00:35:06.000
Yeah.

00:35:06.159 --> 00:35:11.679
Um, and she said, you know, we had been struggling together, we had gone through this journey together, and now if she's pregnant, I'm so happy for her.

00:35:11.840 --> 00:35:14.320
But it's a reminder that I'm not pregnant.

00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:14.719
Right.

00:35:14.960 --> 00:35:19.519
And so she, because not because she was trying to steal her thunder or anything, I had asked all the questions.

00:35:19.679 --> 00:35:20.719
Yeah, and I think that's normal.

00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:22.239
Everyone that made her emotional.

00:35:22.400 --> 00:35:23.840
I've talked to a lot of people that go through that.

00:35:23.920 --> 00:35:25.599
They've had to get off social media if they're trying.

00:35:25.840 --> 00:35:26.000
Yep.

00:35:26.239 --> 00:35:27.119
Because it's hard to see.

00:35:27.360 --> 00:35:27.760
It is.

00:35:27.920 --> 00:35:28.320
Yeah.

00:35:28.639 --> 00:35:31.440
So, so she started, you know, telling me about her journey.

00:35:31.599 --> 00:35:33.519
So then I brought you guys back though.

00:35:33.760 --> 00:35:34.960
Or did you not pray with us?

00:35:35.039 --> 00:35:35.760
Did I pray with all people?

00:35:35.840 --> 00:35:36.320
I didn't know.

00:35:36.400 --> 00:35:38.000
I you wouldn't, I wasn't there.

00:35:38.159 --> 00:35:40.000
So all this table of people, I don't know.

00:35:40.079 --> 00:35:41.039
We all said, let's pray.

00:35:41.280 --> 00:35:43.039
Sounds it fits, yeah.

00:35:43.199 --> 00:35:43.440
Yeah.

00:35:43.519 --> 00:35:44.480
So we prayed.

00:35:44.719 --> 00:35:46.239
The girl got pregnant.

00:35:46.320 --> 00:35:46.559
Yeah.

00:35:46.800 --> 00:35:47.840
Like two months later.

00:35:48.000 --> 00:35:48.960
It was like a miracle.

00:35:49.119 --> 00:35:49.280
Yeah.

00:35:49.440 --> 00:35:52.159
So then at our Christmas party this year, my neighbor was struggling.

00:35:52.320 --> 00:35:53.760
We told her the story about the watch.

00:35:53.920 --> 00:35:55.440
We told her about the shower.

00:35:55.519 --> 00:35:57.840
And then we prayed with her in the middle of the Christmas party.

00:35:58.000 --> 00:35:58.880
In the middle of the Christmas party.

00:35:59.039 --> 00:36:01.440
Yeah, she'd been trying for like six months or longer, yeah.

00:36:01.599 --> 00:36:02.960
And then we had a party two months later.

00:36:03.199 --> 00:36:04.480
You're like a fertility angel.

00:36:04.719 --> 00:36:04.960
Yes.

00:36:05.039 --> 00:36:05.199
Yeah.

00:36:05.440 --> 00:36:06.000
At a party.

00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:09.840
So people lined up outside your house to like pray with you.

00:36:10.079 --> 00:36:11.840
Girl, are you having a party anytime soon?

00:36:12.480 --> 00:36:18.719
Because I think when you have a drink though, you're more like, I get, I was, I didn't even drink though at those most of those things.

00:36:19.039 --> 00:36:19.760
Just the one shower.

00:36:20.079 --> 00:36:25.360
So, anyways, I was talking to my one of the girls, my old cheerleaders this weekend, about this stuff.

00:36:25.519 --> 00:36:26.880
She knows all those stories.

00:36:27.119 --> 00:36:30.639
And we were talking about the pit and going to the palace.

00:36:30.960 --> 00:36:39.119
But I was telling her, it's really hard, I think, for people when they are struggling to conceive or in any struggle, what people say to you.

00:36:39.599 --> 00:36:47.519
Like I think even my sister-in-law with with Len with Lincoln, she, you know, my niece that passed away when she was pregnant.

00:36:47.679 --> 00:36:50.239
You know, it's really hard to always know what to say.

00:36:50.320 --> 00:36:50.559
Right.

00:36:50.719 --> 00:36:52.400
Like when people are going through hard things.

00:36:52.559 --> 00:36:52.639
Yeah.

00:36:52.800 --> 00:36:55.840
And I think everybody agrees they have the purest intentions.

00:36:56.000 --> 00:36:58.880
But sometimes, you know, when people say the wrong thing.

00:36:59.039 --> 00:37:02.960
Yeah, even our friend Jen, she used to tell us people would say, like, just adopt.

00:37:03.119 --> 00:37:03.280
Yeah.

00:37:03.440 --> 00:37:06.480
And she'd be like, I want to help kids, but for some reason, right?

00:37:06.639 --> 00:37:08.079
I feel like God wants me to have my own.

00:37:08.559 --> 00:37:10.000
Or like everything happens for a reason.

00:37:10.079 --> 00:37:11.599
I think a lot of people get irritated with that one.

00:37:12.079 --> 00:37:13.039
Yeah, they're in a better place.

00:37:13.199 --> 00:37:18.159
My aunt said after my uncle passed, she's happy he's in a better place, but it doesn't mean her place is any better.

00:37:18.639 --> 00:37:20.320
Yeah, and I'm like, oh, I say that all the time.

00:37:20.480 --> 00:37:22.079
I always just try to be like, oh, I'm sorry.

00:37:22.159 --> 00:37:22.880
I don't know what to say.

00:37:23.039 --> 00:37:23.599
That's probably better.

00:37:23.760 --> 00:37:24.159
Just honest.

00:37:24.239 --> 00:37:24.559
I'm sorry.

00:37:24.639 --> 00:37:25.199
I don't know what to say.

00:37:25.280 --> 00:37:26.079
I feel a little awful.

00:37:26.239 --> 00:37:27.280
Like, I just try to be like that.

00:37:27.440 --> 00:37:28.639
Yeah, because it's hard.

00:37:28.800 --> 00:37:32.079
And with fertility, there is a lot of expense.

00:37:32.159 --> 00:37:32.320
Yeah.

00:37:32.559 --> 00:37:33.920
I don't think people know about.

00:37:34.400 --> 00:37:35.199
Oh my gosh.

00:37:35.360 --> 00:37:40.800
So you have to either go in debt or spend your life savings to have a kid where you see everyone else just having a kid.

00:37:40.880 --> 00:37:41.920
I think it's just a really hard thing.

00:37:42.079 --> 00:37:42.239
Yeah.

00:37:42.400 --> 00:37:43.920
Anyways, we're gonna be praying for her.

00:37:44.079 --> 00:37:44.719
We did the prayer.

00:37:45.280 --> 00:37:46.719
You did the prayer, so we did the prayer.

00:37:47.199 --> 00:37:49.360
We're gonna be hearing shortly about how she's praying.

00:37:49.920 --> 00:37:51.760
She's amazing, but she's an amazing person.

00:37:51.840 --> 00:37:56.159
And we talked about the pit and how God's just working on her character, but she has good character.

00:37:56.320 --> 00:37:59.760
But I always believe like your story is what you usually help people with later.

00:38:00.559 --> 00:38:03.119
Like, yes, even with you know, adopting.

00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:08.079
It's like you are taking what you was hard for you, and now you're trying to help someone else in that.

00:38:08.239 --> 00:38:09.599
That's why I always want to adopt all the kids.

00:38:09.679 --> 00:38:14.239
I'm like, oh, it's you know because it's your story, so you never know why God's taking you through a story.

00:38:14.400 --> 00:38:14.639
Right.

00:38:14.800 --> 00:38:16.480
Because he has something planned for you on the other side.

00:38:16.639 --> 00:38:16.960
Totally.

00:38:17.119 --> 00:38:23.920
And now I want to tell people you made fun of me, but every day I I do my like I don't like to say the word affirmation, but I tell myself who I want to be.

00:38:24.000 --> 00:38:24.159
Yeah.

00:38:24.320 --> 00:38:25.360
Remember, and it's a clip.

00:38:25.519 --> 00:38:26.719
I'm a champion coach.

00:38:26.960 --> 00:38:28.719
Yeah, I know I am! Yeah, you are.

00:38:28.960 --> 00:38:29.280
I did.

00:38:29.360 --> 00:38:29.760
We did it.

00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:32.320
I'm gonna be like, I'm a skinny billionaire.

00:38:33.519 --> 00:38:35.119
Like, you're gonna hear me saying that.

00:38:35.280 --> 00:38:37.920
No, I have no wrinkles and I'm a billionaire.

00:38:38.400 --> 00:38:43.440
But I have been saying, yeah, so I saw this like, I'm really, I'm a god girl all the time.

00:38:43.599 --> 00:38:44.639
I'm it's a primary.

00:38:44.880 --> 00:38:46.000
We're anti-manifesting.

00:38:46.320 --> 00:38:49.679
Yeah, like I get the manifest and I say things and then No, the manifest is stupid.

00:38:49.920 --> 00:38:56.480
I believe in like you tell yourself what you and like I've read some books lately, you know, like we don't realize the negative things cause negative things.

00:38:56.639 --> 00:39:03.199
Well, there's a science to what you tell yourself in your narrative, and then what you tell yourself comes out in your actions.

00:39:03.440 --> 00:39:05.440
So I read Stop manifesting.

00:39:05.519 --> 00:39:08.320
It's like we're this lady, self-fulfilling prophecy.

00:39:08.400 --> 00:39:08.559
Yeah.

00:39:08.639 --> 00:39:10.800
So I read this thing where this lady tells herself every day.

00:39:10.880 --> 00:39:11.519
There's a few of them.

00:39:11.599 --> 00:39:13.840
Now my feed is all of it, you know, because I've liked it.

00:39:14.000 --> 00:39:16.880
And she's all I am, I am a boss, and blah, blah.

00:39:17.119 --> 00:39:22.719
And then some people about money, they're like, I money just finds its way to me.

00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:23.679
It's way to me.

00:39:24.079 --> 00:39:28.000
And I have so much money I don't even know what to do with, so I can bless people with the money.

00:39:28.079 --> 00:39:29.679
Because money, I'm a money magnet.

00:39:29.840 --> 00:39:32.159
So the girl tells herself that-says they're money magnet?

00:39:32.480 --> 00:39:33.199
I'm gonna say that.

00:39:33.519 --> 00:39:36.880
I did at the casino, and uh, you know it.

00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:37.519
I was winning.

00:39:37.599 --> 00:39:38.480
I won like three hundred.

00:39:39.199 --> 00:39:40.000
Money magnet at the casino.

00:39:40.559 --> 00:39:41.920
I've been doing what the lady said.

00:39:42.159 --> 00:39:44.239
Because I want you to lose so you stop going.

00:39:44.480 --> 00:39:47.599
No, I've got it one weekend, I got a hand pay twice.

00:39:47.679 --> 00:39:49.360
I got a 2200 and a 3,000.

00:39:49.760 --> 00:39:50.400
This is insane.

00:39:50.559 --> 00:39:56.400
In one weekend, and I told myself, like the lady, I'm a money magnet, and she also says good things are gonna happen.

00:39:56.480 --> 00:39:57.679
I've been doing that more.

00:39:57.840 --> 00:40:01.599
It's not that good things happen, it's that you notice I'm in the day because you told yourself.

00:40:01.760 --> 00:40:05.920
Yeah, it's not saying it just happens, but you're you're telling your mind what to focus on.

00:40:06.079 --> 00:40:06.239
Yeah.

00:40:06.559 --> 00:40:07.519
So I am good about that.

00:40:07.599 --> 00:40:09.119
I'm all there, I go boasting myself.

00:40:09.199 --> 00:40:11.440
No, but we are dealing with an issue.

00:40:11.599 --> 00:40:17.519
CJ got in a car accident, and now there's people that are injured.

00:40:17.679 --> 00:40:20.000
I'm using that term, you know.

00:40:20.239 --> 00:40:22.960
Um but I it's stressful.

00:40:23.199 --> 00:40:29.199
And so the other day I was not feeling sorry for myself, but I was I was just like, why is this happening?

00:40:29.280 --> 00:40:32.159
Like I this is so and then I just was like, you know what?

00:40:32.320 --> 00:40:37.360
This is just gonna make us you know, this is gonna be a life lesson for our whole family.

00:40:37.599 --> 00:40:52.400
And maybe something, maybe this doesn't even have to do with our family, it has to do with the person that they're like God works all things out for good for so no matter what is gonna come from this, we're gonna be okay and we're gonna be better for it.

00:40:52.639 --> 00:41:00.239
And then even if we end up, you know, I'm like, I have the mindset that I'm gonna be better for it, and so it is going to be.

00:41:00.400 --> 00:41:02.159
So I'm obsessed with all this stuff.

00:41:02.239 --> 00:41:12.079
Yes, and they say most successful people in anything in a sport, oh yeah, they're business, they take things and they always know when they're happening to them that this is gonna work, make me better.

00:41:12.239 --> 00:41:12.880
Yeah, they said that's it.

00:41:13.039 --> 00:41:14.239
It's gonna work together for good.

00:41:14.480 --> 00:41:28.320
The number one thing in successful people that they was talking about athletes that make it to the highest level, which is like major league or you know, NFL, like who the get to the highest, it's how they respond to setbacks or obstacles or challenges.

00:41:28.480 --> 00:41:29.679
They believe it's gonna make them better.

00:41:30.320 --> 00:41:30.880
It's working for good.

00:41:31.039 --> 00:41:34.960
And it's like they take it on as a challenge, or they it's not like they don't crumble.

00:41:35.119 --> 00:41:36.320
I'm gonna be my weird women though.

00:41:36.480 --> 00:41:38.239
Because I have I don't get any weird women.

00:41:38.480 --> 00:41:39.199
So I have the weird women.

00:41:39.360 --> 00:41:41.199
She's like, all things work together for my good.

00:41:41.360 --> 00:41:46.320
And she has these like these raps, but like I saw your thing, then her thing, but it's so true.

00:41:46.400 --> 00:41:47.199
Yeah, in anything.

00:41:47.519 --> 00:41:52.000
Well, now I see just like women like dunking donuts and milk because you sent me that girl.

00:41:52.639 --> 00:41:55.199
That's all I'm a fat girl and what I eat in a day, and I'm all right.

00:41:55.360 --> 00:41:56.400
You watch it every time, though.

00:41:56.480 --> 00:41:57.199
You cannot watch it.

00:41:57.360 --> 00:41:59.360
Well, and then I can't believe what she eats in a day.

00:41:59.679 --> 00:42:01.119
I can't believe because I'm watching it.

00:42:01.199 --> 00:42:04.559
Well, half the food that she's eating, I'm like, well, I order that, so that doesn't make me.

00:42:04.960 --> 00:42:06.239
But you don't order it all in one day.

00:42:06.400 --> 00:42:06.960
No, I don't.

00:42:07.039 --> 00:42:09.440
And if I order it in one day, I'm full for the rest of the day.

00:42:09.599 --> 00:42:11.519
The rest of the day, and I don't do it again for like six months.

00:42:11.679 --> 00:42:13.679
You don't drink cane saws with a straw.

00:42:14.719 --> 00:42:15.280
No, I don't.

00:42:15.360 --> 00:42:20.719
Never use nacho cheese from Taco Bell and goes with a straw, and you see the cheese go up into the straw.

00:42:20.880 --> 00:42:22.559
Ugh, you can't believe what you're seeing.

00:42:22.880 --> 00:42:26.079
She dips donuts and ice, and it bothers me because it's it's ruining the donut.

00:42:26.320 --> 00:42:27.280
It's hardening the donut.

00:42:27.599 --> 00:42:29.599
I'm you're you're ruining the donut.

00:42:29.760 --> 00:42:31.679
If you're gonna eat that good donut, don't put it in ice.

00:42:31.920 --> 00:42:33.519
Who was I talking to the other day at the baseball?

00:42:33.840 --> 00:42:37.119
No, it was at the baseball tournament, and oh, I know who it was.

00:42:37.280 --> 00:42:41.280
And they were talking, oh, she had fried pickles, and she was like, Hey, do you want some fried pickles?

00:42:41.440 --> 00:42:42.400
And I was like, Well, maybe.

00:42:42.480 --> 00:42:45.599
And she's like, Ben, and I was like, Ben doesn't need that stuff, he's way too healthy.

00:42:45.679 --> 00:42:47.039
And she's like, Oh, so Ben's the healthy one.

00:42:47.119 --> 00:42:52.559
I'm like, Ben's so healthy, and like I want all the bad things, but it was just funny because I don't remember the point.

00:42:52.960 --> 00:42:53.599
Yeah, I don't know either.

00:42:53.840 --> 00:42:54.079
Shoot.

00:42:54.239 --> 00:42:55.360
Did she ruin the fried pickles?

00:42:55.840 --> 00:43:02.639
I get I get all these bad food people now in my feed, and I watch it, and now I can't get it out of my feed.

00:43:02.800 --> 00:43:08.400
I need to get the traveling back in and the no, but the father's a fat girl in a day out.

00:43:08.559 --> 00:43:10.239
It's crazy what she eats, but you know what?

00:43:10.320 --> 00:43:12.000
She drinks diet coke.

00:43:12.559 --> 00:43:15.599
Jen sharpened I once in college, after college.

00:43:16.239 --> 00:43:17.039
It's so funny.

00:43:17.199 --> 00:43:26.079
So we're like, everyone, Jen always talks about how the people always tell her, I heard about you on the podcast, but we saw everyone skinny orders diet real soda.

00:43:26.159 --> 00:43:26.320
Yeah.

00:43:26.480 --> 00:43:27.360
And it is a thing.

00:43:27.519 --> 00:43:28.159
My sister-in-law.

00:43:28.400 --> 00:43:36.559
Yeah, because I do think, not I'm saying not I but most overweight people do drink jet diet, and most skinny people drink regular.

00:43:36.800 --> 00:43:37.360
Yes, I agree.

00:43:37.599 --> 00:43:37.920
100%.

00:43:38.239 --> 00:43:38.400
Yes.

00:43:38.559 --> 00:43:43.360
So Jen and I When I get a soda, I never drink soda, I get a regular root beer or regular Coke.

00:43:43.440 --> 00:43:46.000
I got a chocolate Coke on the or I got a chocolate Coke on the cruise.

00:43:46.320 --> 00:43:47.840
Or no, it wasn't a chocolate, a cherry coke.

00:43:48.079 --> 00:43:48.960
Chocolate cokes are good.

00:43:49.039 --> 00:43:49.199
Yeah.

00:43:49.360 --> 00:43:50.960
But I think it's with the fake sugars.

00:43:51.039 --> 00:43:51.840
I think that's part of it too.

00:43:52.000 --> 00:43:52.320
Yes.

00:43:52.480 --> 00:43:54.320
But Jen and I thought, you know what?

00:43:54.400 --> 00:43:55.119
Let's start drinking.

00:43:55.199 --> 00:43:57.760
So our noon diet is we drink real soda.

00:43:58.400 --> 00:43:59.599
We get in like 10 pounds.

00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:01.119
It was the worst diet.

00:44:01.360 --> 00:44:04.960
So for two weeks we ate, drank real soda and ate all our bad food that we were eating.

00:44:05.039 --> 00:44:05.119
Yeah.

00:44:05.280 --> 00:44:06.159
And we gained 10 pounds.

00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:06.480
Yeah.

00:44:06.639 --> 00:44:08.719
But her husband, Ryan, always drinks real soda.

00:44:08.800 --> 00:44:10.400
And Kyle, my husband, and he's not big.

00:44:10.559 --> 00:44:10.800
No.

00:44:10.960 --> 00:44:13.199
My brother, he looks amazing, by the way.

00:44:13.280 --> 00:44:14.320
He is really fit now.

00:44:14.400 --> 00:44:17.280
But he, when he was bigger, we go, I drank diet soda.

00:44:17.360 --> 00:44:17.599
Yeah.

00:44:17.760 --> 00:44:20.159
But I do think it's more satisfying and keeps you full longer.

00:44:20.400 --> 00:44:21.119
The regular soda?

00:44:21.199 --> 00:44:21.280
Yeah.

00:44:21.360 --> 00:44:21.519
Yeah.

00:44:21.679 --> 00:44:24.239
So like if you have it with a meal, you're probably not eating as much.

00:44:24.480 --> 00:44:27.679
And I only crave it, like, I probably get that twice a year.

00:44:27.840 --> 00:44:28.079
Yeah.

00:44:28.320 --> 00:44:30.159
So when I get it, I'm having it, and it's my.

00:44:30.559 --> 00:44:31.920
So my sister-in-law, she's tiny.

00:44:32.000 --> 00:44:32.880
She always drinks Pepsi.

00:44:32.960 --> 00:44:33.119
Yeah.

00:44:33.519 --> 00:44:33.920
Pepsi.

00:44:34.320 --> 00:44:34.480
Yeah.

00:44:34.719 --> 00:44:35.119
Always.

00:44:35.760 --> 00:44:38.400
And I'm always like, I want the Pepsi.

00:44:38.639 --> 00:44:38.880
Yeah.

00:44:39.119 --> 00:44:46.320
Well, that's my own like food issues though, because I always wanted to be, like, sometimes when we go places, I want to be the girl that eats the normal food.

00:44:46.480 --> 00:44:52.559
Cause like sometimes like the skinnier girls eating the normal food, the other people are eating the diet food in my head.

00:44:52.719 --> 00:44:52.960
Right.

00:44:53.199 --> 00:44:55.920
So I always wanted to be like with everyone eating the real girls.

00:44:56.159 --> 00:44:57.599
But now that I think about it, it's not true.

00:44:57.760 --> 00:44:58.559
I noticed that too.

00:44:58.880 --> 00:45:01.119
Most people I like admire, they're always getting the healthier option.

00:45:01.440 --> 00:45:02.719
Julia's always getting the healthy option.

00:45:02.800 --> 00:45:03.039
Yeah.

00:45:03.199 --> 00:45:05.440
She just, and it's not a diet, it's just how she eats.

00:45:05.599 --> 00:45:07.119
Yeah, my mom always said that diet is a way to be able to do it.

00:45:07.280 --> 00:45:10.400
And then when I do see people getting bad, I'm like, oh then it tracks.

00:45:10.800 --> 00:45:11.280
Oh my god.

00:45:11.360 --> 00:45:15.840
Oh, Crystal gets so mad when I'm you eat bad and it doesn't track.

00:45:16.000 --> 00:45:16.320
Yeah.

00:45:16.559 --> 00:45:18.639
But a majority of your day you're making better choices.

00:45:18.880 --> 00:45:21.840
But I yes, like that's not the the all.

00:45:22.079 --> 00:45:23.280
No, that's the one-off.

00:45:23.519 --> 00:45:24.960
That's not the everyday.

00:45:25.519 --> 00:45:26.480
So funny.

00:45:26.960 --> 00:45:28.960
Oh, I can't even like get past it.

00:45:29.039 --> 00:45:31.679
But, anyways, your mind is so important.

00:45:31.760 --> 00:45:32.800
That's what we were talking about.

00:45:33.039 --> 00:45:35.360
The mind is so important with the championship.

00:45:35.440 --> 00:45:36.800
I was gonna say something else about it though.

00:45:37.039 --> 00:45:37.280
I know.

00:45:37.440 --> 00:45:38.400
Um, oh no.

00:45:38.559 --> 00:45:43.360
So at the casino, I started doing what the weird person did, and I was like, something great's gonna happen.

00:45:43.679 --> 00:45:44.480
I'm gonna start doing it.

00:45:44.559 --> 00:45:44.800
Yeah.

00:45:44.960 --> 00:45:46.880
And I was like, money finds its way to me.

00:45:47.039 --> 00:45:48.239
I was doing it, and I get it.

00:45:48.480 --> 00:45:49.039
Jackpot.

00:45:49.199 --> 00:45:50.639
I won it like three times that weekend.

00:45:51.119 --> 00:45:51.199
Yeah.

00:45:51.360 --> 00:45:51.760
It was insane.

00:45:51.920 --> 00:45:52.880
Well, and you know what's funny?

00:45:53.119 --> 00:45:56.559
When I do go to the casino, which is rare, I have a very You won too.

00:45:56.719 --> 00:45:58.480
Yeah, but I have a negative attitude.

00:45:58.639 --> 00:45:59.039
Yes.

00:45:59.280 --> 00:46:00.719
I think I had a good attitude that night.

00:46:00.800 --> 00:46:01.039
You did?

00:46:01.119 --> 00:46:01.599
You won a lot of it.

00:46:01.760 --> 00:46:02.639
It was Allie's birthday.

00:46:02.800 --> 00:46:04.239
Yeah, it was like a good vibe.

00:46:04.639 --> 00:46:07.360
I always have a negative attitude, like this is a waste of money.

00:46:07.440 --> 00:46:09.440
I'm not gonna win anything, and I never do.

00:46:09.599 --> 00:46:09.920
Yeah.

00:46:10.079 --> 00:46:12.559
And so it's like that night you were starting.

00:46:12.880 --> 00:46:13.920
You were calm at the machine.

00:46:14.079 --> 00:46:16.960
Well, Ben always has a great attitude like you, and he always wins.

00:46:17.199 --> 00:46:17.360
Yeah.

00:46:17.599 --> 00:46:18.239
It's crazy.

00:46:18.400 --> 00:46:18.559
Yeah.

00:46:18.639 --> 00:46:21.199
So let's have good attitudes this week and do zooies.

00:46:21.679 --> 00:46:23.519
No, that has nothing to do with this.

00:46:23.760 --> 00:46:24.000
Yeah.

00:46:24.159 --> 00:46:24.320
No.

00:46:24.719 --> 00:46:25.519
Everybody live a little.

00:46:25.679 --> 00:46:26.559
Do the yeah.

00:46:26.719 --> 00:46:26.880
Yeah.

00:46:27.039 --> 00:46:27.840
And have a good attitude.

00:46:28.000 --> 00:46:28.400
So for you.

00:46:28.559 --> 00:46:29.519
Be nice to your husbands.

00:46:29.599 --> 00:46:32.079
We really are for that, even though T should fake sleep again.

00:46:32.239 --> 00:46:33.920
No, I am nice though to my husband.

00:46:34.079 --> 00:46:35.039
Yeah, you are nice to your husband.

00:46:35.199 --> 00:46:36.079
I'm really nice.

00:46:36.320 --> 00:46:36.480
Ah.

00:46:36.800 --> 00:46:37.519
We just had that too.

00:46:37.760 --> 00:46:39.920
Oh no, but so oh, I actually have a funny thing about that today.

00:46:40.320 --> 00:46:41.119
We're timed up, hurrying up.

00:46:41.440 --> 00:46:41.760
I'm almost done.

00:46:41.920 --> 00:46:42.239
Almost done.

00:46:42.320 --> 00:46:42.400
Okay.

00:46:42.559 --> 00:46:42.800
All right.

00:46:42.880 --> 00:46:47.679
So we had to go to the HOA today because our neighbor complained about our pergola, blah, blah, blah.

00:46:47.760 --> 00:46:48.400
So we're at the HOA.

00:46:48.480 --> 00:46:51.599
So I told Ben before, because he does this thing where he like overshares.

00:46:51.679 --> 00:46:51.840
Yeah.

00:46:52.000 --> 00:46:52.880
And I'm like, shut up.

00:46:53.039 --> 00:46:54.079
We're getting to the story about the thing.

00:46:54.239 --> 00:46:54.400
Yes.

00:46:54.480 --> 00:46:55.360
And he's saying all the wrong things.

00:46:55.440 --> 00:46:57.840
So I told him before, you're not allowed to talk at this meeting.

00:46:58.000 --> 00:46:58.239
Okay?

00:46:58.400 --> 00:46:59.920
And he's like, okay, I'm not gonna talk.

00:47:00.000 --> 00:47:02.719
So we go there, we sit down, and he's like, Yeah, I'm not allowed to talk.

00:47:02.880 --> 00:47:06.559
And I'm like, they're probably just like, this girl's got this guy's balls in her back.

00:47:07.360 --> 00:47:07.519
You know?

00:47:07.679 --> 00:47:08.159
Yeah, exactly.

00:47:08.320 --> 00:47:09.840
They're like, blink if you're safe then.

00:47:10.079 --> 00:47:11.679
So then they ask one.

00:47:12.159 --> 00:47:20.159
So I tell the whole story, they ask one question, and he, I start to answer, and then he cuts off, and then he starts telling way too much information.

00:47:20.320 --> 00:47:22.159
And I'm like, shut up, shut up.

00:47:22.239 --> 00:47:23.440
So then I go, I cut him off.

00:47:23.519 --> 00:47:26.880
I go, he wasn't supposed to talk, and then they all laugh, but I was like, shut up.

00:47:27.440 --> 00:47:28.320
But you got what you wanted.

00:47:28.400 --> 00:47:29.360
But no, you wanted.

00:47:29.519 --> 00:47:29.920
Yeah, we did.

00:47:30.000 --> 00:47:36.960
But no, my point was I always try to be nice to him in public, but sometimes when he's No, your point was, I thought the story about Noah.

00:47:37.280 --> 00:47:40.159
The point was being nice to the people there, what happened today in the car.

00:47:40.400 --> 00:47:43.280
You knew the people there, and we said, Yeah, it's so important who you know.

00:47:43.440 --> 00:47:44.000
Oh, yes.

00:47:44.159 --> 00:47:47.119
Yeah, and then you were like, Yeah, that's why I'm always nice to people.

00:47:47.199 --> 00:47:48.480
And Ben and I were like, No.

00:47:48.719 --> 00:47:52.400
Then you started yelling, and then on your way out, he goes, And that's why you're always nice to people.

00:47:52.639 --> 00:47:53.519
I forgot about that.

00:47:53.679 --> 00:47:54.800
That's the story I thought you were telling.

00:47:55.039 --> 00:47:56.079
Oh no, I was telling a different story.

00:47:56.719 --> 00:47:57.840
You wanted to be nice in front of people.

00:47:58.079 --> 00:47:58.400
Oh, yeah.

00:47:58.480 --> 00:48:02.000
So I ended up knowing the people on the board that were voting if I could have this.

00:48:02.159 --> 00:48:02.320
Yeah.

00:48:02.480 --> 00:48:06.239
And I was like, Thank goodness I always am nice to people and treat people kindly.

00:48:06.320 --> 00:48:07.119
And I'm telling you.

00:48:07.280 --> 00:48:10.159
And she's telling me that with Ben in the room, and we both go, whoa, whoa, whoa.

00:48:10.320 --> 00:48:10.480
Yeah.

00:48:10.559 --> 00:48:10.880
And I am.

00:48:11.199 --> 00:48:13.119
You're not that nice to new people though.

00:48:13.280 --> 00:48:14.239
No, but I'm nice.

00:48:14.480 --> 00:48:16.239
Yeah, in real life, you're nicer than I am.

00:48:16.480 --> 00:48:18.159
Yes, but Ben and I'm strangers.

00:48:18.239 --> 00:48:18.480
Yeah, I'm not sure.

00:48:18.639 --> 00:48:19.920
Ben and I talked to all the random people.

00:48:20.159 --> 00:48:21.840
Yeah, and they were like, No, you're not.

00:48:22.000 --> 00:48:26.880
And then, and then so then I was yelling at him about something, and then he goes, Yeah, and you're always kind.

00:48:27.840 --> 00:48:28.559
It was funny.

00:48:28.719 --> 00:48:29.119
He's so funny.

00:48:29.360 --> 00:48:31.119
And then I got mad at him because he's so funny.

00:48:31.280 --> 00:48:32.239
Yeah, Zooie.

00:48:32.480 --> 00:48:32.960
So, okay.

00:48:33.039 --> 00:48:33.920
Yeah, I guess that's it.

00:48:34.000 --> 00:48:34.639
Let's wrap up where we're gonna do it.

00:48:34.719 --> 00:48:35.920
We're gonna go do Zoe's this week.

00:48:36.079 --> 00:48:39.280
No, I think we're we'll have to negotiate something.

00:48:39.440 --> 00:48:42.480
You know, it's it's all uh it's all part of a negotiation.

00:48:42.719 --> 00:48:43.679
Yeah, you said that on the phone.

00:48:44.159 --> 00:48:46.480
If you want me to do it with you this week, you better be nice.

00:48:46.639 --> 00:48:47.519
I never said that.

00:48:47.599 --> 00:48:48.480
That's so weird.

00:48:48.800 --> 00:48:49.280
You did.

00:48:49.519 --> 00:48:50.480
I might have said something.

00:48:50.880 --> 00:48:53.760
Yeah, it was more in your like you Deo's this week.

00:48:54.079 --> 00:48:54.960
Now I play nice.

00:48:55.039 --> 00:48:57.199
If you wanna, you know, you better be act a little better.

00:48:57.280 --> 00:48:59.599
You know, that's how I I'm a little more playful with it.

00:48:59.760 --> 00:49:04.000
Yours is like, if you like it's like Don't you think I'm a football player?

00:49:04.239 --> 00:49:05.280
That's wrong.

00:49:05.599 --> 00:49:06.639
Why are you doing this?

00:49:06.800 --> 00:49:10.800
If I was imitating you doing this, would you feel good about yourself?

00:49:11.039 --> 00:49:12.400
Are you kidding me?

00:49:13.920 --> 00:49:15.840
I can't believe this just happened.

00:49:16.079 --> 00:49:18.239
Oh my god, she is making fun of me more.

00:49:18.480 --> 00:49:19.679
You just did this.

00:49:21.920 --> 00:49:26.000
Okay, if I ever did that to you, like what is this?

00:49:26.159 --> 00:49:27.039
A football party?

00:49:28.159 --> 00:49:29.280
Me in the bedroom?

00:49:30.639 --> 00:49:32.000
It's not like mean.

00:49:32.239 --> 00:49:32.719
Like her.

00:49:33.280 --> 00:49:35.039
Like, like gurrr.

00:49:35.199 --> 00:49:37.360
Not like a football star.

00:49:37.599 --> 00:49:38.719
Crystal, you did this.

00:49:39.039 --> 00:49:40.320
No, you always call it.

00:49:40.480 --> 00:49:40.800
I know.

00:49:40.880 --> 00:49:42.960
I gotta be distorted.

00:49:43.039 --> 00:49:44.719
Crystal always calls herself a football star.

00:49:44.800 --> 00:49:45.360
It's so stupid.

00:49:45.519 --> 00:49:46.480
Yeah, I gotta stop doing that.

00:49:46.559 --> 00:49:47.039
See the mind.

00:49:47.199 --> 00:49:49.360
No, but I gotta call myself a supermodel.

00:49:49.840 --> 00:49:52.400
If you don't do it, you're not getting uh like I'm sorry.

00:49:52.639 --> 00:49:55.199
No, mine's a little more like if you want, yeah, it would be.

00:49:55.599 --> 00:49:56.320
Yeah, I'm trying.

00:49:56.880 --> 00:49:57.840
See you guys in a month.

00:49:58.000 --> 00:49:58.320
Love ya.