S4 E1: Our Not-So-Perfect Reset

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Welcome to Jerkin Around, a podcast that makes you feel better about yourself because we're messed, just like you.

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And Crystal makes fun of you.

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And it's great and it's real.

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It's been a really long summer.

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We are leaving for the summer.

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Hard summer.

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We've had a lot going on.

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Yes, it's on.

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Can you hear Tass?

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Can you hear me?

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Okay.

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Oh, good.

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He tested it before.

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So we had a long summer.

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We went into fall.

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Things got crazy.

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Tisha's daughter started high school.

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My um, you know, I had some more loss in my life in the fall and then crazy.

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So we're finally back.

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That's the good news.

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Yeah, it's January.

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We're back and we will be coming out once a month now.

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I know some people are bummed, but we'll try to do a longer episode for you.

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We'll try to keep you interested.

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But once a month for now, until we get more availability.

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It's just life got crazy.

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But because of that, we have so much to catch you up on.

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Oh my gosh.

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Tisha got into some really crazy, freaky things this summer.

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No.

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She did.

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Well, yeah, we did our travel.

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Meeting.

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No.

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Meeting.

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Yeah, right.

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We were talking before we went live, though, about naughty things that we're not gonna say on the podcast because her kids' friends listen and our my daughter's friends listen.

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Yeah.

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So my cheerleaders now listen.

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But in doing that, we were talking about joking, joking, about how she likes to be, you know, slapped around and stuff.

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And so we're saying that it is okay to have a little aggression.

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So that's just kind of I'm curious.

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Wait, oh, we're getting right into it.

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Yeah, we're getting right into it.

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Is a little aggression a good thing in the bedroom, or can it go the other way?

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Like sometimes when they care too much about your needs, I'm like, okay, this is too much pressure.

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It's like the too nice thing.

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Yeah.

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No, I don't think I think aggression is the wrong word.

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Yeah, I guess you're right.

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It's like aggression's like, yeah, like you know, I think more like just less there's moments sometimes it's a little more sweet.

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Sometimes it's a little more less sweet.

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Yeah, control.

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I don't mind a little bit.

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Do you think you're the opposite person in the bedroom than you are in real life?

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Yeah, because I'm very controlling in real life.

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So am I.

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And I don't mind someone else taking control.

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I like it.

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Totally.

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I don't want to be the boss in the bedroom.

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No, no.

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Not at all.

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I want to be bossed around a little bit.

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Well, I don't want to be the the are you more the initiator or is Ben?

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Oh no, he's always the initiator.

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If I ever initiate, he's like beside himself.

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It's like two seconds, you know?

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I'm like, oh boy.

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That's all I needed to do.

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No, I agree.

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I know.

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I know.

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Do you ever like in the mood, but like hoping he starts it?

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No.

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Really?

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He always starts.

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I feel like it would be, even if I give it a little tiny hint that like I might be in the mood, it's on.

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So I'm never really given like that.

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We're gonna get so much heat.

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Here we go.

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We need to talk about that.

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You've been wanting to oh yeah, you've been wanting to set the record straight.

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Yeah.

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Oh gosh, did we get trending in the worst way?

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First Justin Bieber clip, and now this.

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Oh my god.

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Yeah, like they say, like what any press is good press or bad press is good press.

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Kitra has a hard time believing that.

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I just don't want to be known for the wrong thing.

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Well, we talked about playing dead in the bedroom, which all girls have done.

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Don't clip this, but that is true.

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No.

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But a lot of male podcasts went crazy about it.

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We should play the clip.

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It's stupid.

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So yeah, it was a clip where we were saying how we don't want to give the wrong signal.

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So like if I'm not in the mood, I can't cuddle because it sends him the wrong signal.

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Exactly.

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And then it was like I was eating alive, like, oh, I never give it to my husband.

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He's gonna cheat on me.

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I'm a like a feminist and I'm the opposite of a feminist.

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We're very big into giving it to your husband.

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Totally.

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Give it all the time.

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I'm giving it three times a week.

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Yeah, I know.

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Lately too.

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I know.

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It's like, what's happening?

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Yeah.

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So if I want to be given it.

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If you want to play dead one day, it's no problem.

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No problem.

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One night off.

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I'm tired.

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Yeah.

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You know?

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The other day, showing houses for eight hours, like I'm playing dead that night.

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Yeah, exactly.

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Every girl does it.

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Every girl in real life I've talked to that has a happy, healthy marriage has not moved.

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When they start rubbing, you can't move.

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Sometimes I'll move because the back rub is good.

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And then he thinks that's a green light.

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And I was like, I wasn't ready to go all the way.

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Right.

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But like, okay, if you're gonna rub my back, I'll do anything.

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I'm not there.

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Really?

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I'll do anything?

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Like, what is this?

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No.

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Like, if you clean the house, do all the dishes, make the dinner, do the laundry, and give me a five-hour back rub.

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Yeah, then I'll do anything.

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But like, no.

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See, I do all that stuff, but I really like the back rub.

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Yeah, I'm like, you're way too easy.

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I'm a little harder to get.

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Yeah, a little harder to get.

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No, but I just didn't like how we the I feel I felt like a villain on The Bachelor.

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You know, like where you're misunderstood.

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Yeah, I did feel misunderstood because we're pro men.

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And it made me like relate to all the people on like reality.

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Famous people, yeah.

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Or like, you know, they have one bad like thing and then they're like known for something.

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They're totally like rewrote their whole storyline.

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Yeah, because anything can be edited to like make you say things that you're not even really saying.

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I truly feel like I identified with those people.

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I'm like, I'm not a villain.

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We're going there.

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But no, I agree.

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We're very pro-conscious.

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We're very pro-men.

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Some of the non-feminists.

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Yeah, the people we've got.

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They're like, it was a little too feminist for me.

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We're like, it's anything but a feminist podcast.

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Yeah.

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So all the people that I like and and agree with were hating what I was saying.

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Yeah, exactly.

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So I didn't love that.

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This is your moment.

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What do you want to say to the case?

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Yeah, so I'm clear in the air.

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Yeah.

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And you you are gonna play dead, even if you're giving it up seven days a week, you're still gonna play dead at some point.

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Yeah, exactly.

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And like, it's no problem.

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Yeah.

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And it was taken out of context.

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Yeah, we believe in supporting your husbands, making their feel loved and adored.

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Totally.

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And you really shouldn't deny your husband.

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That's in the Bible.

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But everyone, yeah, like well, you shouldn't like withhold for like anger.

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Certain reasons.

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Yeah, it shouldn't be like a negotiator, but you use it for all your negotiating.

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Yeah, but I'm not withholding, I'm just offering as an incentive.

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In addition.

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Yeah, like those that that suitcase isn't gonna put itself away.

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So if you want to put it away, then you know.

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But does he put it away every time?

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Well, yeah, and then I do it every time.

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That's fine.

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So we get back from a trip, your suitcase sits out.

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That night, the night he puts it away, it's a given.

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Not that night.

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It'll be like, I think he leaves it out because he knows you're not gonna do it that night.

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Yeah, so then he's like, I put it away.

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He'll tell you.

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Oh yeah.

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And then I know, okay, you know?

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Really?

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Yeah.

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But you still don't start it.

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Or like if there's some things I'm like, I know he's gonna have to pick up a lot of slack because I'm busy or something.

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Yeah, working, yeah.

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So then I know, okay, I need him to do all X, Y, and Z.

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So then I'm like, okay, daddy, you know?

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And then what do you say?

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And then he why do the thing and then he knows, okay, you know?

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What do you mean do the thing?

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You do the deed, and then he gets to do all those chores.

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Is that what you're saying?

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So, like, after you finish, you're like, okay, so you're gonna take Fox here, you're gonna take Bear here, you're gonna put the laundry away in.

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Don't forget my suitcase.

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Have a good day.

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Exactly.

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It sounds horrible.

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You're right, I'm way too easy.

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Yeah.

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Like, it sounds horrible.

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So it's after though, it's not before.

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I'll do it before.

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It's both.

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It's not gonna happen already.

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He does get mad though when you talk a big game and don't fall through.

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I know, but I don't do that very often anymore.

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You did yell at me and I stopped doing that.

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Yeah, it's rude.

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I know, but like sometimes that's out of my control.

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So, like in the morning, it'll be like you're a morning girl.

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The heavy petting.

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But then somebody comes in.

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That can be misconstrued.

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No, but then somebody comes in, or like, oh shoot, we gotta run, we have to do it.

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Heavy petting.

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Because you don't like the other things.

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No, like rubbing rubbing your body.

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Heavy petting is just like insinuating it's coming.

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Okay.

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Like we're doing some things.

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I don't know.

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It's just like some attention.

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Yeah.

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So then, but what happens is, oh shoot, we gotta go.

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So it's over.

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So it's over.

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And then he's left.

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Blue.

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It is.

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Oh, that's it.

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And so then that's when he gets mad, like all day I'm walking around like this.

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Yeah, I would I would be mad too.

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Yeah, it's not like I don't make good on my promises.

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Yeah, it just might not be right then.

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Yeah.

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You know, we said this season we were gonna talk a lot less about sex, and we started with like 20 minutes.

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We'll move on from that.

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But yeah, it's always curious what's going on in your house, you know?

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Yeah, well, shut up.

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I don't know what's going on in your house, but it's it's easy.

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It's all you blinked at me, eh, you know.

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He threw away a cup.

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You know, it's like it's a little bit, I got a little bit of a more of a effort going on in my house.

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I can't breathe.

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I'm dying.

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That's so funny.

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It's not that bad, but he like there was going back to this again.

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Kyle has this thing.

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If I say no, it's a yes.

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Do you ever have that?

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No.

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When I say, because I heard it doesn't happen a lot, so I'm like, eh, not tonight.

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I'm really tired.

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It's happening 100%.

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Guys love a challenge, yeah.

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Yeah.

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So like if I say no, I should learn this.

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Like, don't say that, because then it really is gonna happen.

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Then it really he's gonna make sure.

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He's gonna make sure every time.

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Yeah.

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Um, speaking of, we've been watching Landman.

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We're late to the show.

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It's so good, though.

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So you're just watching the first season.

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We finished the first season, now we're caught up, but I am obsessed with their relationship, even though it's kind of toxic and crazy.

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Yeah, she's nuts.

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I love her nutsness that he just like it's this thing where I say weird things and then I say it reminds me of you.

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I know.

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Why do you always do that?

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It's so rude.

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She's all, yeah, that lady's a real bitch.

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She reminds me of you.

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And I'm like, oh, well, that's weird.

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I was gonna say, they kind of remind me of you and Ben.

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Because like I'm not crazy though.

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No, but like the one day when he was going to Vegas, it was a little crazy.

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And he was just like, Yeah, yeah.

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Like, it wasn't like it was worked up at all.

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He wasn't even, I've never seen someone less worked up.

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I was like, Ben, get out, leave, and you're all going.

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I was like, Ben, save yourself, run now.

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And he's like, she's like, Tell him what happened.

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Okay, so Ben does this thing where he asks me if he can do something like three months in advance.

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So far in advance.

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And I don't care.

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And I don't care because I'm cool.

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I'm like, whatever.

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But then what happens is when the event is here, all of a sudden I do care.

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It's a horrible timing.

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It's a horrible timing.

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Horrible timing with the kids with 50 things going on.

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And it's not that I care if he's going.

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You can explain this whole story because it's relatable.

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It was Fox's first baseball game.

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Yes.

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So it that you didn't know the date when you said yes.

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Yes.

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And then I'm not like doing his first little game.

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Like that's a dad's job.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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And then um, we it was your it was the weekend.

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Yeah, but then your mom went in the hospital.

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So I was going there to see her.

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It was just like a really busy, it was right after we got back from New Year's.

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So when he asked me three months in advance, yeah, go do it.

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And then all of a sudden now he's leaving for the weekend and there's 50 things going on.

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So then I was grouchy.

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So I was being nasty.

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Real nasty.

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Yeah.

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So I came over to drop some.

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Oh, Tisha and Ben do this thing where they clean all of our stained clothes.

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It's very weird.

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It is weird.

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It's like how people leave stuff out for the dry cleaner.

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My whole family doesn't know.

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Broxton's throwing his fan.

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We're the dry cleaners.

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Yeah, you are the dry cleaners.

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But it's weird because I've never met a family that has more stains.

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Thank you.

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Like, what's happening?

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It's a free roll on my house.

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And then just giving us all their clothes.

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Like, oh yeah, you, it's like the, you know, like the um the the people that eat like the dripping stuff on Instagram, you know?

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That's rude.

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With my body type, it's wrong.

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I'm not saying you're a body.

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She doesn't.

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I can't believe she's not bigger though.

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Okay, yeah, there's this girl on there that's like, what I eat as a fat girl, and then she's eating all these things, and they're everything I eat.

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Yeah, me too.

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I was all the cane sauce, dipping it in the whole cup.

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But then she was like, I went and got an appetizer and then a chicken sandwich, a fried chicken sandwich.

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It like she dips her donuts in milk.

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That part grosses me out.

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But but like everything she eats, it's not even that bad.

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And then I was like, Oh, I'm disgusting if I'm eating the same thing as her.

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It like it was a wake-up call.

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Yeah, you know, it was a wake-up call.

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But going back, so I send her my laundry, so I was dropping off some clothes, I walk in, Ben's getting abused, and she's all why don't you just leave?

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And I was all, Ben, go to the airport, just get out.

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And he's all doing dishes.

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He wasn't even faced.

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He was like, Yeah, she's fine, don't worry, she'll be okay.

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Yeah, and I was thinking, maybe it's not okay, but it was.

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Yeah, he wasn't even faced.

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Well, he knew he just had to wear it.

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Yeah, see, I get like crazy, like if Kyle acts like that, I'm losing my mind.

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Yeah.

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Instead of just like ignoring him.

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And I just ignore him.

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Like when we were setting up for the dinner, he was coming back.

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She ignores Kyle, my husband.

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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And Ben ignores me.

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Yeah.

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It's weird it's like a So I gotta start ignoring Kyle.

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The tantrums.

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Yeah.

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He has tantrums.

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And they get you.

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Oh, they aggravate me.

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Yes.

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And then I yell back.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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So he was having a tantrum the other day, and I was just ignoring him, and then it was fine.

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I'm all, isn't this fun?

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And he's all no.

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Did you say that?

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Yeah, but it was fun.

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Him and me and him setting up.

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I was like, this is fun.

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He's like, no.

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And I'm like, yeah.

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You know?

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It was, though.

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I'm not faced at all.

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Yeah, I was at the hospital with my mom.

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My mom had some heart trouble.

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So we were in the hospital for like a week with her.

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So Tisha went over to set up.

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We had a cheer thing at my house that night.

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And so she went over with Kyle to set everything up.

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And he was less than thrilled about hosting, you know, a whole event that night, but got him to think it was fun.

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But I love their marriage.

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I love that he just ignores her.

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I love the ring when he on landman when she calls his phone.

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I feel like my days can relate to his sometimes.

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He's just putting out fires all the time.

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Yeah, I was saying yes.

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Her body's insane.

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It's insane.

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But going into this.

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But I was like, she's smart.

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Like, you know, like wearing the bikini and he's like, all right, get the money.

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I was like, I will, I was like actually like banking that idea.

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I'm like, that's a great idea.

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It is a great idea.

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You know?

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Her body's insane.

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I'm gonna do that my next vacation.

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I'm gonna be like on all fours, like, daddy, we're gonna go on.

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You know?

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I don't want my kids' friends listening to this.

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Yeah.

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No, but he says yes to vacations.

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I don't think Ben really says no to anything.

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No, he has said no occasionally.

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Yeah.

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And then I have to get, you know, but no, yeah, Ken doesn't like it when I call him daddy in front of her friends.

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And I call him daddy all the time because he's a daddy.

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You know?

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No.

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So her body though is insane.

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And I looked at, she did a whole talk about what she does in a day for that body.

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And it's insane what she does.

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She's not eating the chicken sandwich.

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No, she's not dipping it in the cane sauce or anything.

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She's like really disciplined, like two workouts a day, very healthy.

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Like Brooke.

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I was gonna we gotta go in the brook.

00:14:53.679 --> 00:14:57.039
So Tisha and I have had a recent coming to Jesus.

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I found this girl on Instagram.

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It just like I didn't choose her, she chose me.

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The algorithm chose me, and they it all of a sudden this girl popped up on my feet.

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She's changed our life.

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She's amazing.

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Brooke, if you ever listen to this, come on the podcast.

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Molly?

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Yeah, we're obsessed with you.

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She's from like Mole, like Mole Moley.

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So she's from Arizona.

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She now lives in New York.

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And she let me just play and then we can just play Arizona.

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Is it a good one?

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We're proving they were right to leave.

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You're not just skipping the salad.

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You are confirming every assumption that they've made about you.

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They thought you'd spiral.

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They thought you let yourself go.

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You are don't let yourself validate your ego.

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Is it just a little treat?

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You were right about me.

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So good.

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Everybody is a decision.

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Or build yourself into the worst of you that they know the real.

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The reason that somebody broke your heart walks around thinking they were right so hard.

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Any picture you posted should be so good that people are conducting welfare checks on him.

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That's like that taco bell.

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If you knew you were running into your head.

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That's how she started.

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That one's kind of like boyfriend centered.

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They usually aren't, but where was that when I was like 20?

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Oh, I know, and I did prove him right.

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I was all drunk.

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You know?

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No, so she talks about like I love her so much.

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So she talks, it's not just about weight loss.

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It's about becoming who you've always wanted and not succumbing to the moment of insecurity where you want to eat food for like emotion.

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And she's like, which I love.

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We're both, we like like a like no BS.

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Yeah.

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We don't like, oh, so she really just tells it to you.

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It's like Don or old pastor.

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Like she's not, like, she's not sugarcoating it.

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She's and so it's so good.

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The boyfriend stuff I don't relate to as much, obviously, but many people might.

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Totally.

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But she's or divorced.

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And I love what she says.

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She's like, you're either moving toward your goal or you're moving away from your goal.

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There's no stagnant.

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And she talks about like becoming the version of yourself.

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And like, she's like, you're not a dog.

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Why reward yourself with food?

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And then she's like, if you're not an alcoholics, don't not drink all week and then reward themselves by getting wasted on the weekends.

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It's like, it's so good.

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It's so good.

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Brooke Moley, she's amazing.

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I'm obsessed with her.

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Brooke, we love you.

00:17:57.039 --> 00:18:06.480
And she also says, like, I think a thing with weight loss, and we've talked about a few things on here, but we did macros for a few years and not saying anything against it.

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It does work for a lot of people.

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But in macros, you're allowed, if it fits in your macros, you're allowed to eat it.

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So we went from like eating healthy foods to fitting things in macros.

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And like as a kid, I wasn't allowed to ever eat snacks.

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My mom always had like chicken and slim fast shakes.

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And all I've talked about that many times that like my house is like Disneyland because I don't want my kids to think they can't only have, they can never have a cookie.

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Like my brother and I, so when we have one cookie, we want to have 10 because we don't know when we'll have another cookie.

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So like I when I started macros, it was like all of a sudden I could have a cookie if it fit.

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So then I was filling my day with all the things I wanted instead of like fueling your body, right?

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Like with what it needs.

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Yeah.00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:54.000


You know, and when you eat a cookie rather than an apple, you feel better eating an apple.00:18:54.160 --> 00:18:54.240


Right.00:18:54.400 --> 00:18:58.559


You, and then when you eat an apple, you identify as someone that eats an apple, right?00:18:58.720 --> 00:19:02.559


And you're gonna go out there and kill your day because you've already started with a win.00:19:02.720 --> 00:19:08.799


But when you start your day with a cookie or a donut, even though it fit, you're identifying as someone that eats donuts, right?00:19:08.880 --> 00:19:12.880


And you're not winning in the mind of like identifying as a successful person.00:19:13.200 --> 00:19:16.400


She talks about like, it's not like you're on a diet.00:19:16.480 --> 00:19:19.279


It's like a new way of life where you choose healthy foods.00:19:19.519 --> 00:19:20.559


Yes, because you're a healthy person.00:19:20.799 --> 00:19:22.000


Because you're healthy, it's successful.00:19:22.319 --> 00:19:29.440


It's all about how you see yourself and like you're like investing in yourself and like thinking you're worth it.00:19:29.599 --> 00:19:29.839


Yes.00:19:30.000 --> 00:19:33.200


So it's not like it's the quick fix diet where you're starving yourself.00:19:33.279 --> 00:19:38.000


It's like you're making these healthy choices based on who you want to become.00:19:38.079 --> 00:19:40.799


And it's all, it's like I'm obsessed with her.00:19:40.960 --> 00:19:41.920


I'm obsessed with her too.00:19:42.000 --> 00:19:51.759


She said some hard things that um even for us, like when we decided, when we decided on a date to come back, we were both like, crap, it's been summer, it's been winter.00:19:51.920 --> 00:20:02.720


We gotta lock in for the podcast because we unfortunately do agree that you are looked at more successfully based on your she calls it something like your brand.00:20:02.960 --> 00:20:04.000


Like your body is your business card.00:20:04.160 --> 00:20:05.039


Your body's your business card.00:20:05.200 --> 00:20:06.160


Yes, is your business card.00:20:06.240 --> 00:20:06.640


That's what it is.00:20:06.720 --> 00:20:07.759


Your body is your business card.00:20:07.839 --> 00:20:12.000


So when you're successful and you look successful because you're a disciplined person, right?00:20:12.079 --> 00:20:15.839


Like Craig Rochelle, one of our favorite pastors, he is very fit.00:20:16.000 --> 00:20:19.359


You're already people see fit and they identify you as disciplined.00:20:19.519 --> 00:20:19.680


Right.00:20:19.839 --> 00:20:21.039


Which is true because I do that too.00:20:21.200 --> 00:20:21.359


Right.00:20:21.519 --> 00:20:25.759


Like I'm not saying overweight people can't be disciplined.00:20:26.079 --> 00:20:28.960


No, because I'm carrying some holiday weight and I'm very disciplined.00:20:29.119 --> 00:20:29.279


Right.00:20:29.599 --> 00:20:30.799


But in this area, I'm not.00:20:30.960 --> 00:20:31.920


And it's a weakness.00:20:32.240 --> 00:20:38.000


And usually it is, usually, if you are overweight, it is a lack of discipline in that area.00:20:38.240 --> 00:20:38.720


Thank you.00:20:38.880 --> 00:20:40.480


No, but like it's just the truth.00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:43.680


No, it is the truth because sweets is my my total nemesis.00:20:43.839 --> 00:20:48.559


And then she fasting, I'm on this like fasting craze, which I just did mine.00:20:48.640 --> 00:20:54.400


I've been doing Sunday night dinner till Monday dinner because I 24 hours.00:20:54.480 --> 00:20:56.079


For me to go to sleep, I'm not there yet.00:20:56.160 --> 00:20:57.119


But again, it's a mindset.00:20:57.200 --> 00:20:57.519


I could.00:20:57.839 --> 00:20:59.279


Tisha did a 36 hour.00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:04.240


But fasting, you know, when you're aggro algorithm algorithm?00:21:04.400 --> 00:21:04.880


Thank you.00:21:05.039 --> 00:21:07.759


Um, it once you get on something, it goes on it.00:21:07.839 --> 00:21:11.039


And fasting, again, I'm not a doctor, but it's crazy.00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:14.880


One lady found that fasting was taking out of the newer Bibles.00:21:15.279 --> 00:21:20.799


Like it says, I don't know the verse, but it says, in all things fast, like to heal all things fast.00:21:20.880 --> 00:21:21.039


Right.00:21:21.279 --> 00:21:23.119


Meaning your body, your mind, your everything.00:21:23.279 --> 00:21:28.480


And growing up in a very, you know, Christian culture, people, my dad fasted all the time.00:21:28.640 --> 00:21:28.880


Yeah.00:21:29.039 --> 00:21:31.200


My dad was stressed about something, he fasted and prayed.00:21:31.359 --> 00:21:34.720


My uncle fasted for like 30 days once because he was going through something.00:21:34.799 --> 00:21:42.640


Like fasting was very a part of our life, not in the trendy way of like the new fasting diet, but more in the spiritual discipline way.00:21:42.799 --> 00:21:43.039


Right.00:21:43.200 --> 00:21:51.200


And and so Brooke fasts 36 hours every week, but she talked about how it's so important for your cells to eat the bad things in your body.00:21:51.359 --> 00:21:54.160


And I just think it's crazy that that would be taken out of the Bible.00:21:54.319 --> 00:21:54.480


Right.00:21:54.640 --> 00:21:59.279


Like, so then that's like it is what's good because medicine is not the old way.00:21:59.359 --> 00:22:01.200


They didn't have Have medicine back then.00:22:01.359 --> 00:22:11.920


So when God tells us to fast to heal all things, like even we had a cheer competition this weekend, and even the day of, I was like, I don't want to eat till it's done because I want to, every time I'm hungry, go to God.00:22:12.000 --> 00:22:12.160


Yeah.00:22:12.319 --> 00:22:16.000


Like it's not about like just the nutrition of it.00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:20.400


It's just the discipline that like food doesn't control me anymore.00:22:20.559 --> 00:22:23.200


Like I'm working that way and I've gotten a lot better because of Brooke.00:22:23.440 --> 00:22:26.400


And it's like little choices don't control me anymore.00:22:26.480 --> 00:22:30.160


I'm not gonna give in on the donut because then I'll give in in the area of work.00:22:30.240 --> 00:22:30.319


Right.00:22:30.559 --> 00:22:31.759


I'll give in in the parenting.00:22:31.839 --> 00:22:33.599


I'll give in in the finance.00:22:33.759 --> 00:22:34.960


I'll give in in all areas.00:22:35.119 --> 00:22:39.839


So like one area outlining it disciplined, it's gonna make everything in your life more disciplined.00:22:40.079 --> 00:22:49.920


Well, and she talked about like being like obsessed with your goals and like really like achiev when you go to achieve a goal, like really going all in.00:22:50.000 --> 00:22:54.400


And I feel like that same thing trickles over into other areas.00:22:54.640 --> 00:23:00.559


And in in nutrition or in eating, I feel like that is totally an area where I don't go all in.00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:04.079


Like I can eat good all week, and then on the weekend, I'm like, ah, weekend warrior.00:23:04.160 --> 00:23:06.480


Like I eat out, eat bad, and you don't feel good.00:23:06.559 --> 00:23:06.799


Yeah.00:23:06.960 --> 00:23:09.519


And so it's just And it does backtrack you all the way.00:23:09.759 --> 00:23:10.240


All the way.00:23:10.480 --> 00:23:13.440


You'll eat good all week, and then that weekend I'll have to start over the whole next week.00:23:13.599 --> 00:23:13.839


Yeah.00:23:14.000 --> 00:23:17.200


But it's we've we've been eating a lot of the Brooke things.00:23:17.359 --> 00:23:18.640


So just a quick plug.00:23:18.960 --> 00:23:21.039


Royal bagels have changed my life.00:23:21.200 --> 00:23:21.680


They're so good.00:23:21.839 --> 00:23:27.920


Royal bagel, I had one today, like half of one, because I had oatmeal too, because years ago we thought if you eat oatmeal, you lose weight.00:23:28.160 --> 00:23:28.720


And we did.00:23:28.799 --> 00:23:28.960


Yeah.00:23:29.119 --> 00:23:32.240


And so I started eating it on the cruise we went on, and I love it with an apple.00:23:32.319 --> 00:23:33.839


And like Ben loves oatmeal.00:23:34.000 --> 00:23:34.480


I love oatmeal.00:23:34.559 --> 00:23:37.119


And I oh Craig Michelle eats oatmeal, you know.00:23:37.359 --> 00:23:44.160


So, but like Royal bagels, you can have it with, they're doing one with like cottage cheese and marinara to have like a pizza one.00:23:44.319 --> 00:23:50.400


We've been doing egg whites and cottage cheese, which if you haven't made that, where you heat it and the cheese melts, it's so good.00:23:50.720 --> 00:23:51.440


Unbelievable.00:23:51.680 --> 00:23:55.599


So I do one egg and egg white and cottage cheese, and it's filled with protein.00:23:55.759 --> 00:24:03.119


And then if you put on the royal bagel with Laughing Cow cheese, and we I've been putting like pickled onions and cucumber on it, it's unbelievable.00:24:03.279 --> 00:24:03.680


It's so good.00:24:03.839 --> 00:24:07.680


So Royal bagels, they're only 80 calories, I think, for the whole bagel, and it's like a real bagel.00:24:08.240 --> 00:24:09.200


So you're unbelievable, yeah.00:24:09.440 --> 00:24:10.640


And it's good for cholesterol, all right.00:24:10.720 --> 00:24:13.119


And then wasa bar, like crackers.00:24:13.200 --> 00:24:14.000


We've been eating those.00:24:14.079 --> 00:24:16.880


They're like 40 calories and they're so crispy.00:24:17.119 --> 00:24:17.920


But like what I'm thinking.00:24:18.319 --> 00:24:20.240


We're basically just like a fair nutrition.00:24:20.720 --> 00:24:24.160


Yeah, we're Brooke, basically, but we are doing better than we've done with making better.00:24:24.559 --> 00:24:26.480


Because I know Brooke's before picture is me.00:24:26.559 --> 00:24:29.119


She's all I lost 40 pounds, and then it's all.00:24:29.519 --> 00:24:32.720


My Brooke's before picture is my goal picture, you know?00:24:32.960 --> 00:24:34.079


But it's not about that.00:24:34.240 --> 00:24:36.799


It's the Brooke, it's not about the weight.00:24:36.880 --> 00:24:37.920


Like so many people have told her.00:24:38.240 --> 00:24:38.799


It's not about the weight.00:24:38.880 --> 00:24:39.359


It's not about the weight.00:24:39.440 --> 00:24:43.920


It's about people get mad at her because she's real skinny, and then she's like, and she's real skinny.00:24:44.160 --> 00:24:50.079


And she says terms like, you want to be hot and skinny, and then people are like, it's not about skinny, it's about nutrition.00:24:50.240 --> 00:24:51.599


But like, that's not what she's saying.00:24:51.680 --> 00:24:53.359


I think she almost I love the word hot.00:24:53.440 --> 00:24:54.319


Yeah, and I think she doesn't know.00:24:54.480 --> 00:24:54.960


I do want to be hot.00:24:55.279 --> 00:24:55.920


Everyone wants to be hot.00:24:56.000 --> 00:24:56.799


Yeah, I do want to be hot.00:24:58.079 --> 00:24:59.599


No one's like, I don't want to be skinny.00:24:59.759 --> 00:25:01.759


It's like even if you want to be fit, you still want to be skinny.00:25:01.839 --> 00:25:02.400


Yeah, totally.00:25:02.480 --> 00:25:02.960


Everybody does.00:25:03.200 --> 00:25:03.920


People just get triggered.00:25:04.160 --> 00:25:05.519


But it's like, I don't want to be rich today.00:25:05.680 --> 00:25:05.839


Right.00:25:06.000 --> 00:25:06.079


Yeah.00:25:06.480 --> 00:25:07.680


Like everybody, everybody wants to be.00:25:07.920 --> 00:25:09.279


People are just triggered by those words.00:25:09.359 --> 00:25:09.519


Yeah.00:25:09.680 --> 00:25:10.079


Oh my gosh.00:25:10.160 --> 00:25:12.480


Side note, last night during the championship, which we can get to that.00:25:12.640 --> 00:25:19.200


Yeah, I love that Indian commercial for Lily, the pharmaceutical company, and there's this big DLP one.00:25:19.440 --> 00:25:23.759


Oh, there's this big guy on there, and he's like, I've been on a diet since I was 12.00:25:23.839 --> 00:25:26.160


It's not about a diet, it's about health.00:25:26.319 --> 00:25:27.680


And I'm worried about my health.00:25:27.759 --> 00:25:33.759


And then he's like, and then it's like a pharmaceutical company that he's just taken like a weight loss drug, which I'm not downing that.00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:35.599


Like we've been there.00:25:35.839 --> 00:25:36.079


Yeah.00:25:36.240 --> 00:25:44.799


So I'm not like saying don't try it, but I was just like, it's just sad that like that commercial is being played in front of children that like it is about health.00:25:44.960 --> 00:25:47.119


Like, yeah, it's not healthy to be super overweight.00:25:47.519 --> 00:25:48.079


It's just weird.00:25:48.240 --> 00:25:48.720


It is weird.00:25:48.880 --> 00:25:55.039


Like, I don't like when like there's people on like the they're like, you know, 500 pounds, like, oh, it's like well, the girl we watch.00:25:55.119 --> 00:25:56.319


What I ate in a day is a fat girl.00:25:56.400 --> 00:25:57.200


I can't stop watching it though.00:25:57.279 --> 00:25:59.680


Yeah, but like you're that's not healthy for your heart, you know?00:25:59.839 --> 00:26:00.880


Oh no, it's scary.00:26:01.039 --> 00:26:06.240


Well, I think in America we've gotten away from that a little bit because when we go to other countries like Italy, everybody's skinny.00:26:06.319 --> 00:26:07.599


Yeah, everybody's skinny.00:26:07.680 --> 00:26:11.680


But they're eating croissant, they're eating pasta, they're eating all the things.00:26:11.839 --> 00:26:12.000


Right.00:26:12.240 --> 00:26:13.119


There's just weird things.00:26:13.200 --> 00:26:15.440


I've been trying some weird things from TikTok.00:26:15.599 --> 00:26:18.640


Um, but we know about your weird no, but lemon water in the morning.00:26:18.720 --> 00:26:20.000


I've been doing the hot lemon water.00:26:20.160 --> 00:26:22.960


I did it with salt, even because they're saying salt's so important for your body.00:26:23.279 --> 00:26:26.559


I even this morning put the water with the ice, you know?00:26:26.960 --> 00:26:27.359


Your face?00:26:27.519 --> 00:26:28.720


Yeah, because I was really tired.00:26:29.599 --> 00:26:29.759


Yeah.00:26:29.839 --> 00:26:32.400


And like the podcast, but it did feel amazing.00:26:32.480 --> 00:26:32.640


Yeah.00:26:32.799 --> 00:26:33.920


And then I've been taking a bath.00:26:34.079 --> 00:26:36.720


Baking soda is something that people say we don't use enough.00:26:36.880 --> 00:26:39.680


Like it used to fix everything, and it's like 89 cents.00:26:39.839 --> 00:26:40.000


Yeah.00:26:40.079 --> 00:26:41.680


And so like peroxide.00:26:41.920 --> 00:26:42.319


Yeah.00:26:42.880 --> 00:26:43.359


Tommy.00:26:43.440 --> 00:26:44.000


Hi, Tommy.00:26:44.160 --> 00:26:44.480


I know.00:26:44.559 --> 00:26:48.079


Um, but I've been taking baths with um baking soda and Epsom salt.00:26:48.160 --> 00:26:49.119


It's supposed to like detox.00:26:49.440 --> 00:26:51.279


And I bought like those foot pads that detox.00:26:51.680 --> 00:26:57.759


It's just like, again, like all the toxins in our body from all the foods and all the things, and like gut health is a thing.00:26:57.920 --> 00:26:58.240


Yeah.00:26:58.400 --> 00:26:59.680


Um, it's just interesting.00:26:59.759 --> 00:27:02.240


Like trying it all, and lemon water is so good hot.00:27:02.640 --> 00:27:04.799


Like, even on the days I fast, I can have that.00:27:04.880 --> 00:27:06.799


And it's like, I feel like I'm having something.00:27:06.960 --> 00:27:07.200


Yeah.00:27:07.440 --> 00:27:11.359


So we're not on, we're starting, I'm starting my health journey, so I'm not a pro.00:27:11.680 --> 00:27:12.880


But these are things.00:27:12.960 --> 00:27:13.440


I mean, they're good.00:27:13.599 --> 00:27:14.000


It's going great.00:27:14.559 --> 00:27:15.279


It's it'll change your life.00:27:15.440 --> 00:27:18.240


Yeah, the Wasa put the the laughing cow cheese.00:27:18.720 --> 00:27:19.759


She has really good recipes.00:27:20.079 --> 00:27:20.640


They're really good.00:27:20.799 --> 00:27:23.119


Like I made her brown chicken branch sugar.00:27:23.200 --> 00:27:24.319


That's what we were talking to each other about.00:27:24.720 --> 00:27:28.000


Yeah, I drink her drink now, which is Julia's drink, which makes sense.00:27:28.640 --> 00:27:29.119


Everybody, yeah.00:27:29.200 --> 00:27:31.039


Americano splash of cream, cinnamon.00:27:31.119 --> 00:27:32.000


I've been having that too.00:27:32.240 --> 00:27:34.000


No more milk in my coffee in the morning.00:27:34.160 --> 00:27:34.240


No.00:27:34.480 --> 00:27:38.079


These are just little things, but honestly, I've lost weight very slowly, but I am losing weight.00:27:38.240 --> 00:27:41.200


Don't feel like I'm on a diet, making better choices.00:27:41.359 --> 00:27:47.759


But what I'm finding is when I try to eat chicken and vegetables and fruit only, it's very hard to sustain because it's a lot of food prep.00:27:47.839 --> 00:27:47.920


Right.00:27:48.079 --> 00:27:52.480


But like the wasa with the laughing cow and the turkey, I can do that.00:27:52.559 --> 00:27:52.799


Yeah.00:27:52.960 --> 00:27:54.799


She even makes this pepper sandwich that looks so good.00:27:55.200 --> 00:27:56.160


I haven't made a pepper sandwich.00:27:56.480 --> 00:28:02.640


The crunch, she's like a red pepper with turkey, laughing cow cheese, everything salt, you know, and then you buy it.00:28:02.720 --> 00:28:03.440


But anyways, brook.00:28:03.680 --> 00:28:04.559


Brooke moly.00:28:04.640 --> 00:28:05.359


You know, we love each other.00:28:05.519 --> 00:28:09.680


The other brook I stopped following, the other one Mama Fi Boys or whatever.00:28:09.759 --> 00:28:10.319


I was done with her.00:28:10.720 --> 00:28:12.559


She's changed into like way too commercial.00:28:12.720 --> 00:28:14.400


I'm sick of you pushing ads.00:28:14.480 --> 00:28:15.920


Now I don't even believe a word you say.00:28:16.160 --> 00:28:18.240


I hope this brook doesn't turn into that.00:28:18.960 --> 00:28:19.519


Perfect.00:28:19.680 --> 00:28:20.160


Yeah.00:28:20.319 --> 00:28:23.200


I I don't think well, she's starting to have more ads.00:28:23.519 --> 00:28:25.599


But I kind of want to buy everything she's posting.00:28:25.839 --> 00:28:26.000


I know.00:28:26.079 --> 00:28:28.000


I went on the site and I was like, do it, don't do it.00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:28.799


Yeah, those things.00:28:28.960 --> 00:28:29.920


But I was like, I'm just gonna do it.00:28:30.000 --> 00:28:31.119


Brooke didn't do it, I'm not doing it.00:28:31.200 --> 00:28:32.720


No, I was like, should I have her coach me?00:28:32.960 --> 00:28:33.200


No.00:28:33.359 --> 00:28:34.640


No, I don't need her.00:28:34.799 --> 00:28:35.119


No.00:28:35.440 --> 00:28:38.720


Anyways, but she also has like good things to say too.00:28:38.880 --> 00:28:40.799


She talked about like pushing yourself.00:28:40.880 --> 00:28:44.160


Like, if you want to be rich, start like going where rich people go.00:28:44.319 --> 00:28:49.680


And like she has a she wants to be a celebrity um nutritionist.00:28:49.759 --> 00:28:49.920


Yeah.00:28:50.079 --> 00:28:53.839


So she spends a lot of money going to this certain hairstylist that all celebrities go to.00:28:54.000 --> 00:28:58.000


And she's like, it's way outside my budget, but I want to be around where they're around.00:28:58.240 --> 00:29:01.119


Just like if I get to know her, maybe she says this plant.00:29:01.440 --> 00:29:05.119


And it was like, she's like, I spend a little bit more on my apartment, and it's a commitment.00:29:05.200 --> 00:29:06.880


And like Dave Ramsey wouldn't agree with that.00:29:06.960 --> 00:29:09.119


But I want to put myself where successful people are.00:29:09.200 --> 00:29:09.440


Yeah.00:29:09.599 --> 00:29:11.519


So that I'm around them, so I talk like them.00:29:11.599 --> 00:29:13.440


So I and I'm so into the mind.00:29:13.519 --> 00:29:16.799


Like, yeah, you really start to believe you're prophecy.00:29:17.039 --> 00:29:17.200


Yeah.00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:18.160


I'm so into that.00:29:18.240 --> 00:29:19.200


So it's all the things.00:29:19.359 --> 00:29:20.480


Brooke, she's amazing.00:29:20.720 --> 00:29:23.119


Okay, let's talk about the national championship game last night.00:29:23.599 --> 00:29:24.000


Indiana.00:29:24.240 --> 00:29:24.400


Yeah.00:29:24.480 --> 00:29:27.759


Um, we're obsessed with the quarterback, and I don't know his name, and that's embarrassing.00:29:27.839 --> 00:29:28.319


Do you know his name?00:29:28.480 --> 00:29:29.440


Mendoza's his last name.00:29:29.680 --> 00:29:30.240


Mendoza.00:29:30.319 --> 00:29:33.519


I'm really not good on the fly like that, but what a man of character.00:29:33.680 --> 00:29:40.480


What a what a testimony to his faith, to how he lives, him with his family and his mom, and just all of it.00:29:40.640 --> 00:29:45.119


I love seeing a story like that where the underdog comes because of his faith and who he is.00:29:45.279 --> 00:29:46.400


He's just a good guy.00:29:46.480 --> 00:29:46.640


Yeah.00:29:46.799 --> 00:29:49.920


And they believed, again, self-fulfilling prophecy.00:29:50.079 --> 00:29:54.079


Like he believed that if it was God's will, he would, and he did, and it was unbelievable.00:29:54.319 --> 00:29:56.880


Well, and it's so cool because he was saying how he always wanted to go to Miami.00:29:56.960 --> 00:29:58.000


He tried to walk on and they did not.00:29:58.400 --> 00:29:58.960


I didn't know that.00:29:59.119 --> 00:29:59.359


Oh, yeah.00:29:59.440 --> 00:30:02.240


So last night after he went, he said, this is a full circle moment for me.00:30:02.480 --> 00:30:05.839


I tried to walk on Miami and they denied him.00:30:06.000 --> 00:30:08.960


And then now he came back and because his mom played tennis.00:30:10.079 --> 00:30:11.039


He grew up in Miami.00:30:11.359 --> 00:30:12.000


Two miles from the stadium.00:30:12.240 --> 00:30:12.799


Oh, I have the chill.00:30:13.279 --> 00:30:15.680


His mom played tennis there and his dad like rode or something.00:30:16.079 --> 00:30:18.799


And so God's he graduated, tried to walk on.00:30:18.880 --> 00:30:21.359


They didn't, they were like, nope, you're they wouldn't take him.00:30:21.519 --> 00:30:25.359


So then now he came back and beat him, which I did feel bad for the Miami quarterback when he threw that pick.00:30:25.440 --> 00:30:27.680


I was like, oh, but it was it was just so cool.00:30:27.759 --> 00:30:29.200


And then he was like, all the glory to God.00:30:29.359 --> 00:30:36.559


And it's just cool because so many times we like we like want to take the easy route or like go where it's so cool.00:30:36.640 --> 00:30:38.799


He tried to walk on, didn't get it, but he didn't give up.00:30:38.880 --> 00:30:40.079


And then now look at that moment.00:30:40.160 --> 00:30:46.319


And like that, he said, like that it was so much sweeter and it meant so much more because of what he had to go through to get there.00:30:46.720 --> 00:30:52.079


Well, God's always gonna use our testimony for like our our journey to be a testimony.00:30:52.319 --> 00:30:54.880


But when we're going through it, it doesn't always feel as fun.00:30:54.960 --> 00:30:56.240


Like, why isn't this working out?00:30:56.559 --> 00:31:01.119


And a lot of times I think when something doesn't work out, we think it's God saying no, but God's just saying not yet.00:31:01.200 --> 00:31:01.359


Yeah.00:31:01.519 --> 00:31:03.839


Like it's just not time yet, like you're not there yet.00:31:03.920 --> 00:31:09.759


And now he's using that whole story as a bigger testimony because it didn't go the way it was supposed to.00:31:09.920 --> 00:31:13.920


And he even said something like, even if we didn't win, I still know it's God's story.00:31:14.079 --> 00:31:20.559


And I honestly think like a lot of athletes these days are like way more strong in their faith than they used to be years ago.00:31:20.640 --> 00:31:20.720


Yeah.00:31:20.880 --> 00:31:22.720


And then you see their team like win.00:31:22.799 --> 00:31:22.960


Yeah.00:31:23.200 --> 00:31:31.359


You know, I mean, even this weekend for us, it was, you know, I coached the high school cheer team at Liberty, and it's been like a really amazing year so far.00:31:31.519 --> 00:31:40.720


But we've been building the program for like three years, really, you know, again, identifying that championship mindset, you know, really starting to make championship decisions.00:31:40.880 --> 00:31:44.240


Um, and it was a team that wasn't a championship team at all.00:31:44.400 --> 00:31:53.839


And we've come in and uh Cindy, who I coach with, she's the head coach and I'm the assistant, but we started just making these smarter, better decisions like a championship team would.00:31:54.079 --> 00:31:56.799


You have to like decide your one before it even happens.00:31:56.960 --> 00:32:00.079


But then we've really focused on taking it to God first.00:32:00.160 --> 00:32:00.319


Yeah.00:32:00.480 --> 00:32:07.279


Our assistant coach, Marky, she's really strong in her faith, and we've seen God work through her team in amazing, miraculous ways.00:32:07.359 --> 00:32:08.480


I think we've talked about that.00:32:08.559 --> 00:32:13.920


Um, so this last weekend we had state and we were behind by four points, which in cheerleading is a lot.00:32:14.000 --> 00:32:14.160


Yeah.00:32:14.319 --> 00:32:18.240


So the girls, we're in third place, and and the all the teams were amazing.00:32:18.480 --> 00:32:19.599


And everybody hit.00:32:19.759 --> 00:32:30.319


So when you hit like all your stunts and tumbling, it's really hard for you to move four points because that's like your most put perfect routine is four points behind the other top two.00:32:30.480 --> 00:32:30.720


Right.00:32:30.880 --> 00:32:38.880


But we decided like God's gonna use it if it if it was so close, if it was 0.5 and we came up, then it would be us.00:32:39.039 --> 00:32:39.200


Right.00:32:39.359 --> 00:32:43.519


But if we came up by point four, four points, four full points, then it was God.00:32:43.599 --> 00:32:43.759


Yeah.00:32:43.920 --> 00:32:45.440


Because it's a miracle that it would happen.00:32:45.599 --> 00:32:47.839


So the day of we just decided God's gonna do it.00:32:47.920 --> 00:32:51.920


Like, we gotta trust him with whatever happens that he can make a way.00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:55.839


And we were listening to all like the battle belongs and like I know you can.00:32:56.000 --> 00:32:59.759


And then we talked about how if it's a bigger step, then it's him.00:33:00.079 --> 00:33:03.119


But if we if it's so close that it's us, he might not show us.00:33:03.200 --> 00:33:03.359


Right.00:33:03.519 --> 00:33:07.599


But we have to have faith when the when the world tells us no, we have to have faith that it can happen.00:33:07.759 --> 00:33:13.920


And then um, you know, some things happened with the other team, and we ended up getting second place, which is the best we've ever done.00:33:14.000 --> 00:33:16.799


It's like a huge deal to be a runner-up in that division.00:33:16.880 --> 00:33:23.920


And it was so cool for young girls to believe like if you work for it, if you sacrifice for it, and if you believe, like anything's possible.00:33:24.079 --> 00:33:24.240


Right.00:33:24.400 --> 00:33:29.759


And our hope is they take that into, you know, all the areas of their life, like we did from our amazing coach.00:33:29.920 --> 00:33:31.279


So um, it's just cool.00:33:31.359 --> 00:33:43.599


Like, even, you know, I did 75 Hard a year ago or a year and a half ago, and I read this book, and it it changed my whole mind about like the mind, and it started like identifying who you want to be in the mind.00:33:43.680 --> 00:33:46.559


And I've been saying now for a year and a half, I coached a championship to your team.00:33:46.720 --> 00:33:50.319


But it's like if you identify as that, then you'll make decisions as if you are one.00:33:50.480 --> 00:33:55.440


Just like Brooke, if I'm a skinny person and healthy person, I'm gonna make decisions as if I am one.00:33:55.519 --> 00:33:55.839


Yeah.00:33:56.000 --> 00:34:00.160


Not, you know, like when I'm fitting in cookies for macros, I'm not feeling like a healthy person.00:34:00.319 --> 00:34:00.480


Right.00:34:00.640 --> 00:34:04.319


I'm feeling like the same fat girl that was hiding in the closet eating oranges growing up.00:34:04.480 --> 00:34:07.200


So it's like all that same mindset, but I'm gonna tell you the name of it.00:34:07.279 --> 00:34:07.759


It's so good.00:34:08.000 --> 00:34:09.679


Think and grow rich is one of them.00:34:09.840 --> 00:34:13.760


And then the other one is I was just gonna say, I'm gonna start acting like a rich person.00:34:14.000 --> 00:34:15.519


Well, I think you're already doing that.00:34:15.760 --> 00:34:18.239


I think you do do that, but I think it does happen.00:34:18.400 --> 00:34:19.440


One day it's gonna catch up.00:34:19.679 --> 00:34:20.639


No, but I think you're there.00:34:20.719 --> 00:34:21.119


I don't know.00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:26.000


I mean, you're laying down, going to like going to Paris in lay-down seats.00:34:26.079 --> 00:34:26.639


Like you are.00:34:26.719 --> 00:34:26.960


Yeah.00:34:27.199 --> 00:34:32.880


But I honestly think, like, even Kyle and I, like when we built our house, yeah, and we like started right.00:34:33.199 --> 00:34:35.199


We're not at all wealthy.00:34:35.280 --> 00:34:35.519


Yeah.00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:39.920


But like when we started like putting ourselves in that position, right?00:34:40.079 --> 00:34:41.119


It started to come like that.00:34:41.199 --> 00:34:41.280


Right.00:34:41.440 --> 00:34:43.840


It started like with my brother making those decisions, yeah.00:34:44.000 --> 00:34:46.239


Like changed the whole trajectory of the mind.00:34:46.400 --> 00:34:48.400


I actually posted something yesterday about a lady.00:34:48.559 --> 00:34:49.039


Did you see it?00:34:49.119 --> 00:34:49.280


No.00:34:49.440 --> 00:34:50.239


With the magnets.00:34:50.400 --> 00:34:52.880


She said, Your mind is such a magnet, whatever you believe you become.00:34:53.039 --> 00:34:53.599


Same thing.00:34:53.760 --> 00:34:58.880


And she talked about how when people come from other countries, they believe that the dreams are in America.00:34:59.039 --> 00:34:59.920


You can be rich.00:35:00.079 --> 00:35:03.039


It'll change our family tree if we get to America.00:35:03.199 --> 00:35:04.480


That's the land of opportunity.00:35:04.639 --> 00:35:06.639


We just got to get there and then we'll be it.00:35:06.719 --> 00:35:06.800


Yeah.00:35:06.960 --> 00:35:12.320


And she she said most entrepreneurs who are millionaires or billionaires are actually from another country.00:35:12.400 --> 00:35:12.639


Yeah.00:35:12.800 --> 00:35:15.920


Because they got here, they already believed it was gonna happen and then it happened.00:35:16.000 --> 00:35:16.159


Right.00:35:16.320 --> 00:35:18.159


Because they decided it's the land of opportunity.00:35:18.239 --> 00:35:18.400


Yeah.00:35:18.559 --> 00:35:21.280


Whereas a lot of us that have been here our whole life, we don't see it as that.00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:21.519


Right.00:35:21.679 --> 00:35:22.800


Because we don't know anything different.00:35:22.880 --> 00:35:23.039


Yeah.00:35:23.199 --> 00:35:26.159


But they've put it in their mind that this is gonna happen, and it does.00:35:26.400 --> 00:35:31.039


The book that's the best, I've read it twice: Change Your Paradigm, Change Your Life, Bob Proctor.00:35:31.199 --> 00:35:32.800


It, I'm gonna read it again actually.00:35:32.960 --> 00:35:33.760


It's so good.00:35:33.920 --> 00:35:39.199


But every morning I say I'm debt-free, I'm a millionaire, I have a healthy marriage that people look up to.00:35:39.360 --> 00:35:41.760


I've raised Christ-centered kids that are gonna change the world.00:35:41.840 --> 00:35:45.039


I coach a championship team and I have a success successful podcast.00:35:45.199 --> 00:35:47.360


That's like every day I tell myself this is telling yourself that.00:35:47.440 --> 00:35:48.800


And I try to make decisions as if I am.00:35:48.880 --> 00:35:51.119


So if you guys could help us on the successful podcast, yeah.00:35:51.280 --> 00:35:53.920


Um, Venmo, Crystal, ah, no, just kidding.00:35:54.079 --> 00:35:55.360


No, but tell your friends.00:35:55.599 --> 00:35:56.400


Yeah, it is.00:35:56.559 --> 00:35:57.440


But it's just cool.00:35:57.519 --> 00:36:02.079


Like, again, if kids can learn that at a younger age, I just think it would be yeah.00:36:02.320 --> 00:36:07.119


And even like some of the girls this weekend, they said reach for the stars, because even if you fail, you'll still be among.00:36:07.280 --> 00:36:09.920


And that's kind of how we started building is like, let's go for it.00:36:10.079 --> 00:36:11.119


Then we got third place.00:36:11.199 --> 00:36:13.920


Now we're at second place, you know, and we're going into nationals.00:36:14.079 --> 00:36:16.320


Now we're starting to be treated like champions.00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:20.000


People are stopping them in the halls, saying how good they are, people, all these things.00:36:20.079 --> 00:36:24.079


So it's like you're really turning into what you said you were gonna be by believing.00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:25.199


Yeah, that's it.00:36:25.440 --> 00:36:28.559


So start believing that you are Svetlana in the bedroom.00:36:28.719 --> 00:36:29.199


Yeah, exactly.00:36:29.360 --> 00:36:32.000


And he'll start throwing you around like you are, you know.00:36:32.239 --> 00:36:35.119


But same thing with the inanter quarterback, it's the same philosophy.00:36:35.199 --> 00:36:35.440


Yeah.00:36:35.599 --> 00:36:38.239


And you believe like you travel as if you are rich.00:36:38.719 --> 00:36:38.960


True.00:36:39.119 --> 00:36:41.199


And you have been making more money the last couple years.00:36:41.440 --> 00:36:41.760


True.00:36:41.920 --> 00:36:42.639


So it's happening.00:36:42.800 --> 00:36:44.239


It's happening, it's totally happening.00:36:44.800 --> 00:36:45.280


It's crazy.00:36:45.519 --> 00:36:46.159


It is, yeah.00:36:46.239 --> 00:36:47.519


So what else do you want to make happen?00:36:47.679 --> 00:36:48.480


I know, I'm thinking.00:36:48.719 --> 00:36:49.519


Yeah, we'll see.00:36:49.679 --> 00:36:51.920


I'm like, I don't know.00:36:52.559 --> 00:36:52.880


Yeah.00:36:53.440 --> 00:36:56.880


Well, I think all of it plays in, but let's talk about Kennedy starting high school.00:36:57.039 --> 00:36:57.360


Oh, baby.00:36:57.519 --> 00:36:58.960


Because it's been a long ride for Tisha.00:36:59.199 --> 00:36:59.440


Yeah.00:36:59.679 --> 00:36:59.920


Yeah.00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:00.960


So everything went good.00:37:01.039 --> 00:37:02.719


They go to the same school as Maddie now.00:37:03.119 --> 00:37:04.480


So now they're on the same cheer team.00:37:04.559 --> 00:37:08.400


So more Tisha's not at all-star cheer with me anymore, but now we're at high school cheer together.00:37:08.559 --> 00:37:09.360


Yeah, so it's fun.00:37:09.519 --> 00:37:09.760


Yeah.00:37:09.840 --> 00:37:14.639


But what do you think the biggest, like hardest thing has been about a kid going to high school?00:37:15.679 --> 00:37:18.800


Well, so I already had a kid go to high school, but it was a little different.00:37:19.039 --> 00:37:19.840


I think a girl too.00:37:20.000 --> 00:37:22.800


Yeah, it was a little different because they're so opposite.00:37:23.039 --> 00:37:26.639


I don't feel like CJ is as social as Ken.00:37:26.960 --> 00:37:29.519


I feel like guys you don't worry about as much as you know.00:37:29.679 --> 00:37:33.280


Um, and then I think she made varsity as a freshman.00:37:33.360 --> 00:37:42.800


So she was automatically kind of thrown in with upperclassmen and like like little things that like a lot of freshmen don't do, like they running in cars.00:37:42.960 --> 00:37:52.960


Yeah, riding in cars, going out after the game to in and out, like yeah, things that we didn't have to deal with with CJ as much because he wasn't on that upperclassman, right?00:37:53.039 --> 00:37:53.199


Yeah.00:37:53.360 --> 00:38:00.400


So that I feel like has been a not a battle, but yeah, uh we're navigating it.00:38:00.480 --> 00:38:00.800


Yeah.00:38:01.039 --> 00:38:03.119


Because we argue a lot.00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:06.159


She wants to do all the things, and I'm like, hold on, you're a freshman.00:38:06.320 --> 00:38:07.280


Like, I have to remind her.00:38:07.440 --> 00:38:10.000


So but she's a good kid, she makes good choices.00:38:10.320 --> 00:38:12.960


Do you feel like saying no is hard because you're worried about being unliked?00:38:13.039 --> 00:38:15.519


Do you feel like after you say no though, you're proud of yourself?00:38:16.559 --> 00:38:20.000


Um I think that's a hard thing for all parents, especially as kids get older.00:38:20.320 --> 00:38:22.079


Like saying no when they're real mad at you.00:38:22.480 --> 00:38:22.719


Totally.00:38:22.880 --> 00:38:23.920


No, and we've done that.00:38:24.000 --> 00:38:28.800


We've had to say no a few times to riding with certain people in cars that I'm like, no, I'm not comfortable with that.00:38:29.199 --> 00:38:32.960


Or going places she's mad, but then she gets over it.00:38:33.360 --> 00:38:34.559


I saw the worst video.00:38:34.880 --> 00:38:35.679


I shouldn't even tell you about it.00:38:35.840 --> 00:38:36.400


Don't even tell me.00:38:36.480 --> 00:38:37.280


I'm gonna freak out.00:38:37.519 --> 00:38:45.599


No, but I I think like with her, I really try to pick like what I say yes and what I say no, and like I really want to think about it.00:38:45.679 --> 00:38:55.039


And like, I don't want to just always say no either, because I think that's when like kids want to rebel or yeah, but I wanna there's a like I want it to be because there's a reason.00:38:55.119 --> 00:38:57.199


I'm not a big just no because I said so.00:38:57.360 --> 00:38:58.159


Ben's more that vibe.00:38:58.320 --> 00:38:58.719


Yeah, me too.00:38:59.199 --> 00:39:01.199


And I'm like, no, because of this reason.00:39:01.440 --> 00:39:05.199


And then I think when I give the reason, and you don't always have to as a parent.00:39:05.280 --> 00:39:06.960


Sometimes I'm like, it's just no, I'm not comfortable.00:39:07.119 --> 00:39:07.280


Yeah.00:39:07.440 --> 00:39:12.559


But I feel like I usually give a pretty like it's a pretty reasonable reason.00:39:12.719 --> 00:39:16.800


And then she, even if she's pissed off at me, which she she will be, she'll be like, I'm done with you.00:39:16.880 --> 00:39:18.480


She starts saying this new thing, she's done with me.00:39:18.559 --> 00:39:20.400


And I'm like, okay, then get out.00:39:20.480 --> 00:39:21.920


Like, do you think you say that to her?00:39:22.159 --> 00:39:22.639


I'm done with you.00:39:22.800 --> 00:39:22.960


Yeah.00:39:23.119 --> 00:39:23.360


Do I?00:39:23.519 --> 00:39:24.320


Oh yeah, totally.00:39:24.480 --> 00:39:24.800


Really?00:39:24.960 --> 00:39:25.119


Yeah.00:39:25.440 --> 00:39:26.400


Oh yeah, it's rude.00:39:26.639 --> 00:39:28.400


When she says it to me, I'm like, you're done with me.00:39:28.639 --> 00:39:29.360


Like, what are you gonna do?00:39:29.440 --> 00:39:29.920


Like, get out of here.00:39:30.079 --> 00:39:30.800


I'm done with you, Ken.00:39:30.880 --> 00:39:31.280


Get in the house.00:39:31.360 --> 00:39:32.559


You totally say I'm done with her all the time.00:39:32.800 --> 00:39:33.039


Stop it.00:39:33.199 --> 00:39:35.039


Yeah, that's why she's like, You're gonna say it's a new thing.00:39:35.119 --> 00:39:36.159


I'm like, you say it all the time.00:39:36.239 --> 00:39:36.880


I had no idea.00:39:36.960 --> 00:39:37.840


Yeah, you're done with uh.00:39:38.239 --> 00:39:39.599


Oh, she's telling me she's done with me.00:39:39.679 --> 00:39:41.599


I'm like, are you out of your mind?00:39:42.159 --> 00:39:43.119


You say it all the time.00:39:43.360 --> 00:39:44.000


You know what, Ken?00:39:44.079 --> 00:39:44.880


I'm getting done with you.00:39:44.960 --> 00:39:46.000


Oh yeah, I can hear it.00:39:46.159 --> 00:39:46.719


Oh my god.00:39:47.039 --> 00:39:49.119


But I can be done because I'm the boss.00:39:49.360 --> 00:39:50.880


But like, what are you done with me?00:39:50.960 --> 00:39:51.840


What are you where are you gonna go?00:39:51.920 --> 00:39:53.280


You're gonna go live on the streets?00:39:53.519 --> 00:39:54.400


Like, you know, it's weird.00:39:54.480 --> 00:39:54.800


The other day.00:39:55.119 --> 00:39:56.639


She's probably thinking, what are you not my mom anymore?00:39:56.800 --> 00:39:57.440


Yeah, we gotta fight.00:39:57.519 --> 00:39:58.639


I told her, go live with you.00:39:58.719 --> 00:39:58.960


You know?00:39:59.440 --> 00:40:00.800


I was like, yeah, go live with Crystal.00:40:00.880 --> 00:40:01.760


You know what'd she say?00:40:01.840 --> 00:40:02.559


She wanted to?00:40:03.039 --> 00:40:03.840


I don't remember.00:40:04.000 --> 00:40:04.639


I don't even remember.00:40:04.719 --> 00:40:06.880


It was just in the heat of the moment, but I was done with her.00:40:07.119 --> 00:40:09.280


I feel like they should hear what I have to go through with my mom.00:40:09.519 --> 00:40:10.079


Oh, shoot.00:40:10.239 --> 00:40:10.639


No, please.00:40:10.800 --> 00:40:11.519


What if she listens?00:40:11.599 --> 00:40:12.079


That's not nice.00:40:12.320 --> 00:40:13.440


She doesn't even know how to listen.00:40:13.519 --> 00:40:14.079


Oh, that's sad.00:40:14.480 --> 00:40:15.039


Oh, it's hard.00:40:15.119 --> 00:40:16.400


I'll I'll fill you in on that later.00:40:16.639 --> 00:40:18.400


But no, the video I'm gonna tell you.00:40:18.480 --> 00:40:19.360


It's so sad.00:40:19.760 --> 00:40:20.719


Okay, so TikTok.00:40:20.880 --> 00:40:22.559


TikTok I actually very much enjoy.00:40:22.719 --> 00:40:23.280


I'm new to it.00:40:23.440 --> 00:40:23.760


Yeah.00:40:23.920 --> 00:40:29.280


Um, but maybe it was on Instagram, you know, when you scroll, but it was a mom because I want to remember this.00:40:29.519 --> 00:40:31.440


She um, she's a single mom.00:40:31.599 --> 00:40:36.880


Her kid was she had a she didn't feel good that day and she wanted to stay home with her son because she felt like she hasn't seen him in a while.00:40:36.960 --> 00:40:38.639


You know, when you have that, I get that sometimes.00:40:38.960 --> 00:40:42.480


Um, so they stayed home together, just chilled and watched TV, and she like worked from home.00:40:42.639 --> 00:40:46.239


Then later that night they had dinner and then he went out, and his curfew is always 11.00:40:46.320 --> 00:40:48.079


So it was a normal goodbye, everything's fine.00:40:48.320 --> 00:40:50.559


He she never calls him like when he's out.00:40:50.719 --> 00:40:52.239


She always like knows he'll be home.00:40:52.400 --> 00:40:55.280


But for some reason, she called him at 10:45 just to check in on him.00:40:55.360 --> 00:40:58.239


And he's like, Mom, can I please stay out till 11:30?00:40:58.400 --> 00:40:58.960


Like, please.00:40:59.039 --> 00:41:00.239


She's like, No, come home at 11.00:41:00.320 --> 00:41:01.920


He's like, Please, mom, we're just somewhere.00:41:02.079 --> 00:41:03.199


Like, I have to leave right now.00:41:03.360 --> 00:41:05.440


Can we just stay out for like 20 more minutes?00:41:05.599 --> 00:41:07.679


I'll leave in 20 minutes and I'll be home by 11:30.00:41:07.760 --> 00:41:10.960


She's like, No, he's like, Mom, please, I never get to hang with these friends.00:41:11.119 --> 00:41:11.920


Like, we haven't seen it.00:41:12.400 --> 00:41:14.719


And this is an exact replica of conversations I've had.00:41:15.119 --> 00:41:17.039


Literally, that's why I think it resonated so much.00:41:17.280 --> 00:41:19.199


And she's like, fine, because he's a good kid, you know.00:41:19.280 --> 00:41:19.920


She's like, fine.00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:22.000


He he never asks to extend it.00:41:22.159 --> 00:41:24.960


And he was with people he's not always with, like, she understood.00:41:25.280 --> 00:41:32.159


So um, by like I think 12 third 12:30, the cops came to her house and he passed away in an accident.00:41:32.400 --> 00:41:35.679


And it was literally like the accident happened at like 1120.00:41:36.079 --> 00:41:41.039


So, like, in her mind, if I would have made him come home, you know, I shouldn't have said yes.00:41:41.119 --> 00:41:46.239


And she's going through like the worst time, just killing, you know, she's like So that whole thing was on TikTok?00:41:46.400 --> 00:41:47.760


Yeah, she talks like a bit of a little bit more.00:41:47.920 --> 00:41:48.800


Like it's long, yeah.00:41:48.960 --> 00:41:49.760


Yeah, it's like two minutes.00:41:49.920 --> 00:41:50.320


Oh my god.00:41:50.480 --> 00:41:51.360


Yeah, it was really sad.00:41:51.519 --> 00:41:53.360


And I'm like, I'm not saying yes anymore.00:41:53.519 --> 00:41:56.880


But I also think sometimes it's not always about the yes, you never know what can happen.00:41:57.039 --> 00:41:59.119


But sometimes I get like a weird feeling about things.00:41:59.280 --> 00:42:02.960


If ever I get a weird feeling, and I'm like, I don't know, I just have this weird feeling about tonight.00:42:03.039 --> 00:42:08.239


I want you to stay in, or yeah, yeah you know, I I think when you go against your weird feeling, I think that's what it is for her more.00:42:08.400 --> 00:42:08.480


Right.00:42:08.639 --> 00:42:10.880


So she said no twice, she didn't really want him to.00:42:11.039 --> 00:42:11.199


Right.00:42:11.360 --> 00:42:12.320


And then you wore down.00:42:12.559 --> 00:42:14.960


Well, my thing is I owe I never want to have regret.00:42:15.039 --> 00:42:22.639


Like, I know freak accidents can happen, but I never want to have this feeling of like the rest of my life I shouldn't have done this, I shouldn't have done this.00:42:22.719 --> 00:42:25.760


I mean, I think you're always gonna do it if it's something you could have controlled.00:42:25.840 --> 00:42:26.079


Yeah.00:42:26.320 --> 00:42:30.000


But like, if ever I'm getting a feeling, I just say no.00:42:30.079 --> 00:42:31.519


I'm like, I don't like it, you know?00:42:31.840 --> 00:42:35.360


This is what gets us in trouble is every time we fly, you say I have a bad feeling.00:42:35.519 --> 00:42:36.079


I know, that's the problem.00:42:36.320 --> 00:42:38.079


And I'm like, this is everything horrible.00:42:38.320 --> 00:42:40.320


We would get off every flight there ever was.00:42:40.480 --> 00:42:46.079


But like, I feel like in life, yeah, some of them are fine, but sometimes I'm all we do this bad feeling all the time.00:42:46.159 --> 00:42:46.559


So we can't.00:42:46.960 --> 00:42:47.760


I know that's the problem.00:42:47.920 --> 00:42:48.320


That's the problem.00:42:48.639 --> 00:42:58.079


No, when I was on the plane and the and the pilot came on and said, Hey, I've been flying for 30 years, my buddy here's been flying for 40, and you know, it's gonna be a little crazy.00:42:58.159 --> 00:43:00.639


We're going through the he starts talking about the cumulus clouds.00:43:00.719 --> 00:43:02.400


I was like, Oh, you hate the cumulus clouds.00:43:02.559 --> 00:43:04.320


I was like, this is it, get off the fing plane.00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:05.760


Like it was before you took off.00:43:05.920 --> 00:43:06.480


It was before.00:43:06.639 --> 00:43:08.880


I'm like, this, I've flown off a million times.00:43:09.039 --> 00:43:17.039


No one is no pilot has ever come on, said his qualifications, and we're gonna get you through this safely, and telling me about the cumulus clouds.00:43:17.199 --> 00:43:17.760


Was it bad?00:43:17.920 --> 00:43:20.960


Oh, we were with it was on the way to Denver for that concert you didn't go to.00:43:21.119 --> 00:43:23.119


So I looked at you, I'm like, we're getting off of this plane.00:43:23.199 --> 00:43:24.800


Like And you didn't want to go 50 times.00:43:24.960 --> 00:43:25.760


No, 50 times.00:43:25.920 --> 00:43:26.800


I was like, this is it.00:43:26.880 --> 00:43:28.800


This is the moment I wasn't supposed to come.00:43:28.960 --> 00:43:32.320


We're not supposed to be here, we're going down, and she's like, You're fine, you know?00:43:32.400 --> 00:43:33.679


And I was like, Was it bad?00:43:33.760 --> 00:43:34.960


I'm like, Bet, we gotta get off.00:43:35.039 --> 00:43:36.159


And he's just like the worst.00:43:36.239 --> 00:43:38.079


He's like, Yeah, yeah, you're fine, you know?00:43:38.239 --> 00:43:39.280


And I'm like freaking out.00:43:39.440 --> 00:43:40.159


I need someone to be in.00:43:40.239 --> 00:43:40.960


It was me, you know.00:43:41.119 --> 00:43:42.480


We didn't get off, we're alive.00:43:42.639 --> 00:43:44.960


But again, my feeling was like, get off the plane.00:43:45.119 --> 00:43:47.360


So was it was it bad though?00:43:47.679 --> 00:43:50.719


Yeah, it was bumpy, but it wasn't like what they were saying.00:43:50.960 --> 00:43:53.039


Did you see on Landman when she was on that flight?00:43:53.199 --> 00:43:53.599


Oh, yeah.00:43:53.760 --> 00:43:54.960


I was like, I would die.00:43:55.360 --> 00:43:56.800


Like just put me out of my misery.00:43:56.960 --> 00:43:57.199


I know.00:43:57.360 --> 00:43:58.400


Oh, I love the lawyer.00:43:58.480 --> 00:43:59.039


She's so good.00:43:59.199 --> 00:43:59.360


Yeah.00:43:59.440 --> 00:44:02.239


Speaking Of the Kim Kardashian Lawyer show.00:44:02.639 --> 00:44:03.280


What is it?00:44:03.760 --> 00:44:06.000


Um All to All's Fair.00:44:06.239 --> 00:44:08.639


All is Fair in Love and War because it's about like divorce.00:44:08.800 --> 00:44:08.880


Yeah.00:44:09.280 --> 00:44:09.519


So cute.00:44:09.840 --> 00:44:10.000


Really?00:44:10.159 --> 00:44:10.719


Yeah, it really is.00:44:10.960 --> 00:44:11.760


I haven't seen it.00:44:11.920 --> 00:44:12.800


She's a decent actor.00:44:13.039 --> 00:44:13.199


Really?00:44:13.440 --> 00:44:13.920


Like in it.00:44:14.000 --> 00:44:14.639


It's weird.00:44:14.960 --> 00:44:15.199


Yeah.00:44:15.360 --> 00:44:15.519


Yeah.00:44:15.840 --> 00:44:16.079


Interesting.00:44:16.239 --> 00:44:16.960


It's really weird.00:44:17.280 --> 00:44:20.719


Anyways, um, but yeah, so we can't always listen to your feelings.00:44:20.800 --> 00:44:23.760


I feel like we had something else to talk about that was interesting.00:44:24.000 --> 00:44:26.079


We just went on a cruise with our families.00:44:26.239 --> 00:44:27.039


That was interesting.00:44:27.199 --> 00:44:28.239


There was a little fighting.00:44:28.559 --> 00:44:32.159


Um our our husbands have recently picked up cigar smoking.00:44:32.239 --> 00:44:32.480


Yeah.00:44:32.719 --> 00:44:35.679


And they don't really like do a lot without us.00:44:35.840 --> 00:44:36.079


No.00:44:36.239 --> 00:44:39.519


They're more, we're more like the yeah, yeah, see ya, we're going here.00:44:39.760 --> 00:44:39.840


Yeah.00:44:40.159 --> 00:44:41.199


So they're like, where are you going?00:44:41.280 --> 00:44:41.519


Yeah.00:44:41.599 --> 00:44:41.840


Yeah.00:44:42.000 --> 00:44:43.840


And like, can we go or let's all go?00:44:44.000 --> 00:44:44.320


No, yeah.00:44:44.480 --> 00:44:47.039


So it's kind of like it flipped on us where we're like, wait a minute.00:44:47.199 --> 00:44:49.280


Yeah, they're like, we're going to cigars with the boys.00:44:49.360 --> 00:44:50.480


And we're like, who the heck?00:44:50.559 --> 00:44:50.719


Yeah.00:44:50.880 --> 00:44:52.639


And you didn't care because you were just in the casino.00:44:52.880 --> 00:44:53.119


Thank you.00:44:53.280 --> 00:45:00.000


So then I'm just by myself on the degenerate cruise, like, you know, with like gamblers R Us and Cigars R Us.00:45:00.079 --> 00:45:02.800


And I'm just like, oh well, I guess I'll walk five miles every day.00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:04.639


I'm walking around the track again, you know?00:45:04.880 --> 00:45:07.119


I was with you all but one day on the track.00:45:07.679 --> 00:45:08.239


Yeah.00:45:08.559 --> 00:45:08.800


Yeah.00:45:08.880 --> 00:45:09.280


See, I know.00:45:09.440 --> 00:45:09.679


You're mine.00:45:09.920 --> 00:45:14.400


We gotta talk about the Jamaica, the Oh, we had the best excursion day of our life.00:45:14.559 --> 00:45:14.800


I know.00:45:14.880 --> 00:45:18.800


I wish I could like, I wish we would have like had a camera crew follow us.00:45:19.039 --> 00:45:24.239


So it was pouring rain, and I'm like, maybe we shouldn't go on this water-filled excursion in Jamaica.00:45:24.719 --> 00:45:26.719


Everybody just kept going, so I was like, okay, we're going.00:45:26.880 --> 00:45:29.920


So we went and rode horses, which is different.00:45:30.079 --> 00:45:37.119


Um, in Jamaica, like, yep, here are the horses in the guys, and it's very like not big company.00:45:37.360 --> 00:45:38.559


No, it's very local.00:45:38.719 --> 00:45:40.960


Local Wild West vibes.00:45:41.199 --> 00:45:42.239


So we all get on the horse.00:45:42.320 --> 00:45:44.079


Tisha and Ben get on the horse and take off.00:45:44.239 --> 00:45:48.000


Fox, if you don't know, Fox is in first grade and he's a little buddy.00:45:48.159 --> 00:45:48.880


He's a little buddy.00:45:48.960 --> 00:45:50.960


So Fox is like, what horse am I getting on?00:45:51.039 --> 00:45:52.639


I'm like, sorry, Fox, you're on your own.00:45:52.800 --> 00:45:54.800


Just get on the horse and I was off.00:45:55.199 --> 00:45:57.119


See you, Fox, get on, you know?00:45:57.280 --> 00:46:04.079


And I was, no, when they were doing the thing though, I kind of was like, like, it does this thing where it like, you know, you liked it?00:46:04.320 --> 00:46:04.639


I did.00:46:04.719 --> 00:46:07.760


I felt like I was on Yellowstone, like, you know, like, you know how they ride?00:46:07.840 --> 00:46:08.800


I've never rode a horse.00:46:08.880 --> 00:46:09.599


I was secretly scared.00:46:09.840 --> 00:46:10.960


Wait, that was your first time?00:46:11.199 --> 00:46:11.519


Yes.00:46:11.679 --> 00:46:13.360


I rode one once when I was really little.00:46:13.840 --> 00:46:13.920


Wow.00:46:14.159 --> 00:46:18.800


No, like I must have been like five or six, and we went horseback riding, like somewhere.00:46:18.880 --> 00:46:19.760


I don't even remember.00:46:20.000 --> 00:46:20.320


Never.00:46:20.400 --> 00:46:23.920


I'm scared because I'm scared they're gonna buck me off and like break my neck.00:46:24.079 --> 00:46:25.519


So I'm secretly scared, but it was more.00:46:25.840 --> 00:46:28.000


I was scared too, but I kept calming because the horse can feel it.00:46:28.159 --> 00:46:29.679


And the the horse can feel it.00:46:29.840 --> 00:46:31.519


And then I also didn't want the kids to be scared.00:46:32.239 --> 00:46:33.440


Because Fox was on his own horse.00:46:33.599 --> 00:46:36.639


Well, and I have this thing where I'm like, I don't want to project my fears onto my kids.00:46:36.960 --> 00:46:37.199


I'm glad.00:46:37.360 --> 00:46:38.719


So I was except for Bear.00:46:38.800 --> 00:46:39.440


We're gonna die.00:46:39.599 --> 00:46:40.480


Yeah, I think they're projecting.00:46:40.639 --> 00:46:41.599


Well, Bear is the same as me.00:46:41.760 --> 00:46:42.639


He's so cute the other night.00:46:42.719 --> 00:46:46.800


He goes, Mom, we we we watched the notebook, and he's like, we like that movie was so good.00:46:46.880 --> 00:46:50.079


He's like, we like the same shows, but no, Bear's just like me.00:46:50.239 --> 00:46:57.280


So, anyways, I'm on the you know, on the horse going, and like I look back and there's Fox trying to get on, and I was like, Oh, I hope he's okay.00:46:57.840 --> 00:46:59.360


You know, and I was running.00:46:59.760 --> 00:47:01.360


It was like so weird.00:47:01.519 --> 00:47:07.840


Like, so we rode through the they took us like down the beach, but they were all yelling in Jamaica, and so I was like, is this where something's going wrong?00:47:07.920 --> 00:47:08.239


Yeah, you know?00:47:08.480 --> 00:47:11.920


Well, and then that wild horse that came through, and I was like, shit, this is it.00:47:12.000 --> 00:47:13.440


I'm we're bare back, you know?00:47:13.679 --> 00:47:15.440


No, we had a saddle, but yeah.00:47:15.599 --> 00:47:16.639


So we did that.00:47:16.719 --> 00:47:24.960


We went through the water, that was fun, and then we went um like cliff jumping in the blue hole, the blue hole, which is like a thing in Jamaica, and that was so cool.00:47:25.039 --> 00:47:28.800


You like hiked down, yeah, and like we did the rope swing, we didn't jump off the big cliff.00:47:29.039 --> 00:47:31.039


No, but it was like a day of conquering our fears.00:47:31.199 --> 00:47:36.400


It's raining the whole time, so you're sliding, you're then we go white water tubing through a rainstorm.00:47:36.639 --> 00:47:38.960


Yeah, it was supposed to be a relaxing tube.00:47:39.199 --> 00:47:39.360


Right.00:47:39.599 --> 00:47:41.199


It was not, it was so fun though.00:47:41.360 --> 00:47:43.840


I think when you conquer your feels, you just get like a high.00:47:44.000 --> 00:47:45.760


And we were all like out of our element.00:47:45.840 --> 00:47:46.000


Yeah.00:47:46.159 --> 00:47:49.519


You know, in life, I never realized how much I'm not out of my element.00:47:49.679 --> 00:47:55.440


Like everything I do on a daily basis is like in my control and in my like normal routine.00:47:55.599 --> 00:47:58.480


I'm not like pushed out of my comfort zone all day.00:47:58.639 --> 00:48:00.639


It was like a full day of out of my comfort zone.00:48:00.880 --> 00:48:02.239


And that's why it was such a good day.00:48:02.559 --> 00:48:06.719


But it's such a good reminder to our kids and our friends to push people to do things they've never done.00:48:06.880 --> 00:48:07.119


Yeah.00:48:07.199 --> 00:48:09.679


So that's why tonight you're gonna do that one thing.00:48:10.000 --> 00:48:10.320


Let's talk.00:48:10.559 --> 00:48:11.199


I I've done it.00:48:11.360 --> 00:48:12.480


You need to get doing it.00:48:12.719 --> 00:48:14.880


I've done a lot of things out of my comfort zone.00:48:15.039 --> 00:48:16.239


Oh shoot, I'm not doing that.00:48:16.400 --> 00:48:17.679


In life, not in the bedroom.00:48:18.079 --> 00:48:21.440


She's no anyways.00:48:21.679 --> 00:48:22.239


All right, guys.00:48:22.480 --> 00:48:24.239


Well, welcome back to Jerkin'arround.00:48:24.400 --> 00:48:25.920


We'll see you in a few weeks.00:48:26.079 --> 00:48:26.480


Yep.00:48:26.719 --> 00:48:32.000


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